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Rape isn't a gendered assault.

• bigiain 8y ago
  The "reasonable fear of rape" is without doubt hugely asymmetric. Men might be reasonably afraid of getting raped in jail. Women have every right to have a reasonable fear of getting raped in a night club or an Uber or walking home from the grocery store. Because that happens all too regularly. (I'm not saying "men don't get raped", but I am saying that "in general, most men never have any real fear that someone might be about to rape them".)
  • zumu 8y ago
    This may be true of violent rape, but that is not the only type of rape. As someone who has been coerced into sex against my will, I think this narrow idea of what constitutes rape is harmful.
    • bigiain 8y ago
      Of course, and I 100% do not ever want to deny or belittle your (or anyone else's) awful experiences. I am though - still reasonably sure that the gender balance of people being coerced into sex is hugely asymmetric as well. Rape jokes are 100% contemptible when made in front of men who are victims of or genuinely fearful of rape or sexual assault. They are 100% contemptible when made in front of women. (It's contemptible when anyone does it in private with their frat bros or gaming friends/opponents, but I won't judge what they do in private so long as it stays private... But I will recommend they take a long hard look at what sort of person they are if that's what they think is an appropriate way to communicate with _anyone_...)