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I have difficulty believing that there's that big a difference between straight women and straight men in terms of same sex experiences. It's more likely that
by j_baker 16y ago
I have difficulty believing that there's that big a difference between straight women and straight men in terms of same sex experiences. It's more likely that the stigmas attached to male same-sex experiences led more of them to lie about it.
- BrandonM 16y agoI've been at numerous parties where I've seen straight women making out with each other... never straight guys. I realize that's not exactly sex, but it's along the path. Edit: Forgot to mention... there's no real reason to lie to a match question on OKCupid. You can skip the question or answer it while making your answer private.
- jfager 16y agothere's no real reason to lie to a match question on OKCupid Depending on how much emphasis you're placing on "real", sure there is. You could be using it as a proxy to lie to yourself. You could be trying to convince OKCupid that you're the kind of person that should be recommended to the kind of person you want to meet. You could be setting up multiple personas for hook ups vs real dates. Etc, etc.
- BrandonM 16y agoThose are good points. I mainly just wanted to put that information out there for anyone who wasn't familiar with how OKCupid works.
- mikeklaas 16y agoSure there is. Your answer is still used to match with other people, even if they don't get to read it.
- araneae 16y agoOr that attraction is more straight-forward with men. I.e. step a, look down: Is your penis erect? Women might be more likely to experiment because they don't have that instant visual cue.
- NathanKP 16y agoSpeaking for myself, I don't get a boner just from looking at an attractive woman (provided she is dressed), and I don't check my penis to see whether I am attracted to someone. Therefore I doubt that the lack of a "visual cue" is realistic, because I doubt that many men use their erection as a technique for determining whether they are attracted to someone.
- araneae 16y agoYes, but if you couldn't become erect from thinking about any women ever, or seeing a picture of any women ever naked, you could be unlikely to ever try having sex with one in the absence of social pressure. It's a negative filter, not a positive one.
- m-photonic 16y agoYou don't think it's likely that the stigmas attached to male same-sex experiences lead fewer of them to have them in the first place?
- sethg 16y agoA 1990 Cornell survey of young Americans had 14.4% of women describing themselves as lesbian or bisexual, compared with 5.6% of men describing themselves as gay or bisexual. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_sexual_orientation#United_States http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_sexual_orientat...) OKCupid’s discovery that straight-identified women are more likely than men to be interested in a same-sex relationship seems consistent with that research.
- jonknee 16y agoPerhaps its rarity is why there is more of a stigma...
- jackowayed 16y agoIt's a pretty well-established fact that female sexuality is more "fluid". If you listen to any episode of Dan Savage's podcast, it'll probably come up. Society reinforces this because women are much more able to make out/hook up without it being considered gay (and often with it being considered hot), but there seem to be physiological reasons as well. For example, a Northwestern study showed men and women gay male, straight, and lesbian porn and measured their sexual arousal. Men tended to only be aroused by the porn that their sexuality would suggest, but women tended to be aroused by all of it http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2003/06/030613075252.htm http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2003/06/030613075252.ht...
- tyree731 16y agoOr, what is even more likely, is that women believe that men are attracted to women who say they have had sex with other women and enjoyed it.