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I'm asian. I'm not american. I think weighing career dreams (a stereotypical american thing) versus taking care my parents (a stereotypical asian thing) is not

I'm asian. I'm not american. I think weighing career dreams (a stereotypical american thing) versus taking care my parents (a stereotypical asian thing) is not even a close decision. When I look back at my life, I'm not going to regret spending extra time in the office. I'm in no way saying my opinion is correct, because everyone has different values. I'm just sharing my surprise of the dilemma in your post and the original article from my point of view. In fact, my wife and I are a 1000 km apart because she has to take care of her parents and my parents and job are here. we've lived like this for 6 years.

nambit 8y ago
To what end?
- appleiigs 8y ago
  We are working on our own businesses. She will be at a point where she can hire staff soon to provide her more flexibility to travel here more. I'm running a side project which may change my career, allowing me to move. Other plans/alternatives too... situation is temporary even though it's measured in years.
bxtt 8y ago
For me, it's about chasing after an opportunity that will potentially change my career and life. I grew up with nothing, so I chase after everything. My parents were illegals and watching the struggle was very impactful. Even if I decided to go back and take care of them, I would get an earful.
shady-lady 8y ago
> When I look back at my life, I'm not going to regret spending extra time in the office. Did you mean you're not going to regret not spending extra time in the office? i.e. family > work or did you mean work > family
- dragonwriter 8y ago
  I think GP meant “I have made the correct decisions in life by prioritizing family over work so that I will not later regret spending extra time in the office”. There are two sources of non-regret: Not valuing the thing you would sacrifice is one. But not sacrificing the thing is another.
  - appleiigs 8y ago
    Thanks for understanding despite my unclear comment.
- appleiigs 8y ago
  Yes, sorry, i couldn’t edit my comment after. I prioritize family over my career.

nambit 8y ago

To what end?

appleiigs 8y ago
We are working on our own businesses. She will be at a point where she can hire staff soon to provide her more flexibility to travel here more. I'm running a side project which may change my career, allowing me to move. Other plans/alternatives too... situation is temporary even though it's measured in years.

bxtt 8y ago

For me, it's about chasing after an opportunity that will potentially change my career and life. I grew up with nothing, so I chase after everything. My parents were illegals and watching the struggle was very impactful. Even if I decided to go back and take care of them, I would get an earful.

shady-lady 8y ago

> When I look back at my life, I'm not going to regret spending extra time in the office. Did you mean you're not going to regret not spending extra time in the office? i.e. family > work or did you mean work > family

dragonwriter 8y ago
I think GP meant “I have made the correct decisions in life by prioritizing family over work so that I will not later regret spending extra time in the office”. There are two sources of non-regret: Not valuing the thing you would sacrifice is one. But not sacrificing the thing is another.
- appleiigs 8y ago
  Thanks for understanding despite my unclear comment.
appleiigs 8y ago
Yes, sorry, i couldn’t edit my comment after. I prioritize family over my career.