I had them years ago and I found Mingyur Rinpoche's lesson on YT, and listening to his lesson helped me a lot. He made me realize something key. To add to that,

I had them years ago and I found Mingyur Rinpoche's lesson on YT, and listening to his lesson helped me a lot. He made me realize something key. To add to that, just the fact that he also had them made me realize I was not alone. The technique he uses to deal with this issue applied to me wonderfully. It didn't take me years, it took me days, of course everyone's case is different.