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>> “I’m a type of guy who has a very long fuse,” Love says. “I try to be as non-confrontational as I can, but when that fuse breaks, I explode. This is me. I

by zengid 8y ago

>> “I’m a type of guy who has a very long fuse,” Love says. “I try to be as non-confrontational as I can, but when that fuse breaks, I explode. This is me. I had what I feel was a panic attack / semi nervous breakdown on the last day of my internship this summer. It was basically a 12 week interview for a job. On second to last day I received a full-time job offer, and there where a few times where I had embarrassed myself in front of the VP and I was afraid If I got sick and vomited on the last day I embarrass myself again, so my brain just locked into panic mode. I asked my team leader to give me a ride home, and as soon as I walked in the door the panic subsided. I've still had a few flare ups over the last week; we're looking for houses now (our first home purchase) and I'll have to commute for a while, so I'm nervous about that too. I may have to stop drinking coffee and practice more meditation. I think I just get over-exhausted and loose the ability to absorb and cope with stress, so when it happens its like any incoming stress hits my reptile brain directly like touching a raw nerve. I'm very happy that I've had the last week off to relax and rebuild my stress-buffer!

nemo1618 8y ago
Do you have chronic pain or another chronic condition? I'm trying to find out if they're common among people who are non-confrontational, perfectionists, and generally suppress their emotions.
- rrmm 8y ago
  I'd venture to guess so. Stress has a way of coming out one way or another especially for those people who are very 'distant' from their emotions and feelings. Whatever the biological mechanism (chronic cortisol, inflammatory response, muscle tension, high bp/heartrate), it eventually shows up so you can't ignore it any longer. Part of the cure I think is figuring out what your body is telling you through emotions and then figuring out what to do with that information (dealing with the stressor or finding an outlet).
  - nemo1618 8y ago
    Yeah, I ask because that's my personality type as well, and stress has manifested in a number of chronic physical symptoms for me (primarily wrist pain and gastro problems). Treating the symptoms as a signal, like "oh, I must be stressed" or "hmm, maybe that's bothering me more than I realize" has improved my symptoms significantly.
- zengid 8y ago
  No, I haven't been diagnosed with any, but I know what you mean when you carry a lot of stress in posture and mindset.

by zengid 8y ago

nemo1618 8y ago

Do you have chronic pain or another chronic condition? I'm trying to find out if they're common among people who are non-confrontational, perfectionists, and generally suppress their emotions.

rrmm 8y ago
I'd venture to guess so. Stress has a way of coming out one way or another especially for those people who are very 'distant' from their emotions and feelings. Whatever the biological mechanism (chronic cortisol, inflammatory response, muscle tension, high bp/heartrate), it eventually shows up so you can't ignore it any longer. Part of the cure I think is figuring out what your body is telling you through emotions and then figuring out what to do with that information (dealing with the stressor or finding an outlet).
- nemo1618 8y ago
  Yeah, I ask because that's my personality type as well, and stress has manifested in a number of chronic physical symptoms for me (primarily wrist pain and gastro problems). Treating the symptoms as a signal, like "oh, I must be stressed" or "hmm, maybe that's bothering me more than I realize" has improved my symptoms significantly.
zengid 8y ago
No, I haven't been diagnosed with any, but I know what you mean when you carry a lot of stress in posture and mindset.