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Deleting facebook is like saying bye to older contact or classmates. Most will not make it through the refriend on new social media platform stage. It is like

by wolco 8y ago

Deleting facebook is like saying bye to older contact or classmates. Most will not make it through the refriend on new social media platform stage. It is likely this will be the last time you ever have a chance to connect with this person.

askmike 8y ago
Until the next things pops up. I remember people saying the same about Myspace and Hyves (the very definition of social media in the Netherlands a decade ago) and even MSN before that.
- NeedMoreTea 8y ago
  With each reincarnation you always lose a few. Well I have. There's always some fragmentation of which network people end up on next or some stick with the old one far longer than most.
mooreds 8y ago
Or google them or connect on linked in or send them an email. Wait, you don't have their email? You've not sent them an email in 1/5/10 years? Why would you need to connect in the next 1/5/10 years? Seriously though, if you really need to connect with someone and they are on the internet, google can help you find them. You will miss out on serendipitous interaction with loose connections, and that is a real concern. However, the signal to noise ratio of my feeds was so low that such interaction rarely happened anyway.
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nlowell 8y ago
Bring over whoever you actually contacted within the previous two years (or some other rule of thumb)?
sotojuan 8y ago
Yep. People are quick to raise the "well if you can't talk to them without Facebook they aren't real friends" argument but fail to realize it is entirely normal to have acquaintances or relationships with people without them being your close friends, at least for those in the younger age groups (20s?). I'm actually not on Facebook but that was a big downside of leaving the platform when I did (i.e. when people my age actually used it).
- Qwertie 8y ago
  Will you ever actually talk to these people? I have lots of these people in my contacts list who I once knew but haven't spoken to in ages. I have never once randomly messaged one of them.
balladeer 8y ago
I do not interact with my "friends" on social media at all. Call, SMS, WhatsApp, and hangout once in a while are the ways we remain in touch. It's the "acquaintances" who used to wish me "HBD <inset smiley>" once a year on social media (on Fb usually; almost all of them used to wish - just those 2-3 words) and when I made my birthday private that too stopped. Later I deleted my Fb account altogether. And I don't miss any of that really. I still get many birthday wishes. Those are from the people who have been wishing me since I was in school, college, and a couple from work. They are the ones who remember that date (maybe have added in their contacts). But they wish and they want to celebrate that day by meeting and hanging out somewhere and we do that. PS: Well, how I myself feel about birthdays is another matter altogether. Point is, there's no merit in this kind of FOMO.
sshine 8y ago
I went through my entire "friend list" and added people into a spreadsheet with their phone number or email address if I cared to keep contact. Had a long "deactivated" period to figure out which services I had accidentally used facebook for authenticating with. Now I go through my phone book and text/call someone if I want to see them and email pictures to my mom and extended family.

by wolco 8y ago

askmike 8y ago

Until the next things pops up. I remember people saying the same about Myspace and Hyves (the very definition of social media in the Netherlands a decade ago) and even MSN before that.

NeedMoreTea 8y ago
With each reincarnation you always lose a few. Well I have. There's always some fragmentation of which network people end up on next or some stick with the old one far longer than most.

mooreds 8y ago

Or google them or connect on linked in or send them an email. Wait, you don't have their email? You've not sent them an email in 1/5/10 years? Why would you need to connect in the next 1/5/10 years? Seriously though, if you really need to connect with someone and they are on the internet, google can help you find them. You will miss out on serendipitous interaction with loose connections, and that is a real concern. However, the signal to noise ratio of my feeds was so low that such interaction rarely happened anyway.

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nlowell 8y ago

Bring over whoever you actually contacted within the previous two years (or some other rule of thumb)?

sotojuan 8y ago

Yep. People are quick to raise the "well if you can't talk to them without Facebook they aren't real friends" argument but fail to realize it is entirely normal to have acquaintances or relationships with people without them being your close friends, at least for those in the younger age groups (20s?). I'm actually not on Facebook but that was a big downside of leaving the platform when I did (i.e. when people my age actually used it).

Qwertie 8y ago
Will you ever actually talk to these people? I have lots of these people in my contacts list who I once knew but haven't spoken to in ages. I have never once randomly messaged one of them.

balladeer 8y ago

I do not interact with my "friends" on social media at all. Call, SMS, WhatsApp, and hangout once in a while are the ways we remain in touch. It's the "acquaintances" who used to wish me "HBD <inset smiley>" once a year on social media (on Fb usually; almost all of them used to wish - just those 2-3 words) and when I made my birthday private that too stopped. Later I deleted my Fb account altogether. And I don't miss any of that really. I still get many birthday wishes. Those are from the people who have been wishing me since I was in school, college, and a couple from work. They are the ones who remember that date (maybe have added in their contacts). But they wish and they want to celebrate that day by meeting and hanging out somewhere and we do that. PS: Well, how I myself feel about birthdays is another matter altogether. Point is, there's no merit in this kind of FOMO.

sshine 8y ago

I went through my entire "friend list" and added people into a spreadsheet with their phone number or email address if I cared to keep contact. Had a long "deactivated" period to figure out which services I had accidentally used facebook for authenticating with. Now I go through my phone book and text/call someone if I want to see them and email pictures to my mom and extended family.