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Sounds nice, but what about your family? Relatives that might need your attention? I love examples like this one, but unfortunatelly they can't be applied to a

by konart 8y ago

Sounds nice, but what about your family? Relatives that might need your attention? I love examples like this one, but unfortunatelly they can't be applied to a general guy. Though I have to agree that you have to go for a change one way or the other. Some people can do this almost right now, some will have to do some kind of preparations which can take quite some time too. PS: not to metion that economical\social conditions can be an issue too.

Balero 8y ago
I think the entire point of this is to drop what you perceive to be your obligations and to focus on yourself. You first have to identify what you see as your obligations, and to query them. This can be the keeping up with the Joneses, buying stuff for your partner/kids or being around family. In some cases what you think of as your obligations really aren't, your partner would rather spend time with you happy than get a bunch of stuff from you. Sometimes what you think of as an obligation is something you really do have to do, like looking after your kids, or if some other family needs care. Though I like to think of these as responsibilities rather than obligations, something I've actively chosen rather than something that I've been lumped with. I think this critical look at these pressures, and what really should be informing your life is key to being able to re-orient yourself to something that can make you happier.
grecy 8y ago
> what about your family? Relatives that might need your attention? Absolutely, they're important, and by switching to doing something that makes me happier and healthier, I'm able to have a more positive impact on them and also have more time to spend with them. After all time is all we have to spend together, and I'd much rather spend it teaching my nephew to play guitar than sitting at a desk job I don't really enjoy. Because I'm a travel writer and photographer now I can "work remotely" and spend lots of time with family. > Some will have to do some kind of preparations which can take quite some time too. Of course! Anything worth doing requires hard work, and will probably take significant time.
claydavisss 8y ago
do you remember the SNL skit "Debbie Downer"?
ntsplnkv2 8y ago
It's up to you to figure out how to make yourself happy. Personally, I would rather spend time drawing and designing things - as opposed to driving throughout Africa. Everyone's circumstances are different. Some people get dealt a more difficult hand, but most people, through just making better choices, can improve their lives.
dougmwne 8y ago
Most people I've met in big American cities have come there from a home far away and not brought their relatives. They are then tied to that new place and can't easily spend much time back where they came from. I absolutely agree that it's the privileged few who are able to go to California to seek fame & fortune and who can take life on the African safari road.

by konart 8y ago

Balero 8y ago

I think the entire point of this is to drop what you perceive to be your obligations and to focus on yourself. You first have to identify what you see as your obligations, and to query them. This can be the keeping up with the Joneses, buying stuff for your partner/kids or being around family. In some cases what you think of as your obligations really aren't, your partner would rather spend time with you happy than get a bunch of stuff from you. Sometimes what you think of as an obligation is something you really do have to do, like looking after your kids, or if some other family needs care. Though I like to think of these as responsibilities rather than obligations, something I've actively chosen rather than something that I've been lumped with. I think this critical look at these pressures, and what really should be informing your life is key to being able to re-orient yourself to something that can make you happier.

grecy 8y ago

> what about your family? Relatives that might need your attention? Absolutely, they're important, and by switching to doing something that makes me happier and healthier, I'm able to have a more positive impact on them and also have more time to spend with them. After all time is all we have to spend together, and I'd much rather spend it teaching my nephew to play guitar than sitting at a desk job I don't really enjoy. Because I'm a travel writer and photographer now I can "work remotely" and spend lots of time with family. > Some will have to do some kind of preparations which can take quite some time too. Of course! Anything worth doing requires hard work, and will probably take significant time.

claydavisss 8y ago

do you remember the SNL skit "Debbie Downer"?

ntsplnkv2 8y ago

It's up to you to figure out how to make yourself happy. Personally, I would rather spend time drawing and designing things - as opposed to driving throughout Africa. Everyone's circumstances are different. Some people get dealt a more difficult hand, but most people, through just making better choices, can improve their lives.

dougmwne 8y ago

Most people I've met in big American cities have come there from a home far away and not brought their relatives. They are then tied to that new place and can't easily spend much time back where they came from. I absolutely agree that it's the privileged few who are able to go to California to seek fame & fortune and who can take life on the African safari road.