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> One day a couple of years ago, I pulled out a list of the traits I wanted in a husband and realized that Charles had almost all of them. He rose early to begi

> One day a couple of years ago, I pulled out a list of the traits I wanted in a husband and realized that Charles had almost all of them. He rose early to begin each day with prayers and a list of goals that he ticked off as he accomplished them. Only in the US...

biohax2015 8y ago
What exactly is wrong with that?
- kulahan 8y ago
  Some people can't help but hate on all forms of religion, regardless of context.
  - OmIsMyShield 8y ago
    I read it as how culturally distinctive her evaluation of a romantic partner is: a) She actually had a list of the desired / required traits of romantic partners on hand. b) Desired traits include morning prayer. c) Said traits also seemingly included the romantic partner having a daily to-do list. Taken together you do get an interesting cultural phenomenon being displayed here. So in my reading of the original post I found it more interesting than just "hating on religion".
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stronglikedan 8y ago
> Only in the US... Which part? The traits desired in a husband? The morning prayers? The list of goals? Some of it? All of it? Those all seem like things that could describe a lot of people in a lot of countries.
dang 8y ago
You've managed to combine religious flamewar and nationalistic flamewar. Those munitions aren't allowed here, and we ban accounts that set them off. No more posts like this, please. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- hycaria 8y ago
  Sorry, I didn't intend to start any flame war, I didn't respond in any comments by the way. It's just always so surprising to find that someone could have such rigid requirements for a relationship, and one of them being daily prayers (which sounds rather outdated for most younger westerners). I've never encountered that in my european life (more so by magazines editorialists that are usually not very conservative here, although I'm not sure how the nytimes rates on the spectrum), and it's always surprising to me to see that such criterias are enforced and seem normal to everyone, even in upper strates of society, with good access to culture and education (which would be here the most adverse to religion). And yes, I think this whole phenomenon is rather specific to the USA. Even in Greece where many people are pious for example, daily prayers are very specific and active part of one's spiritual life, and I don't meet many people with that level of dedication to faith. It just seems oddly ... scholarly ? Like ticking boxes, as if daily prayer was of any spiritual worth in itself. I didn't emit any judgment though, everyone is free to believe whatever they want. Is it alright if expressed that way ? Can you unban my comment ? Obviously it's not my native language that's why I rather don't engage in long explanations, so sorry if I offended anyone.

biohax2015 8y ago

What exactly is wrong with that?

kulahan 8y ago
Some people can't help but hate on all forms of religion, regardless of context.
- OmIsMyShield 8y ago
  I read it as how culturally distinctive her evaluation of a romantic partner is: a) She actually had a list of the desired / required traits of romantic partners on hand. b) Desired traits include morning prayer. c) Said traits also seemingly included the romantic partner having a daily to-do list. Taken together you do get an interesting cultural phenomenon being displayed here. So in my reading of the original post I found it more interesting than just "hating on religion".
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stronglikedan 8y ago

> Only in the US... Which part? The traits desired in a husband? The morning prayers? The list of goals? Some of it? All of it? Those all seem like things that could describe a lot of people in a lot of countries.

dang 8y ago

You've managed to combine religious flamewar and nationalistic flamewar. Those munitions aren't allowed here, and we ban accounts that set them off. No more posts like this, please. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

hycaria 8y ago
Sorry, I didn't intend to start any flame war, I didn't respond in any comments by the way. It's just always so surprising to find that someone could have such rigid requirements for a relationship, and one of them being daily prayers (which sounds rather outdated for most younger westerners). I've never encountered that in my european life (more so by magazines editorialists that are usually not very conservative here, although I'm not sure how the nytimes rates on the spectrum), and it's always surprising to me to see that such criterias are enforced and seem normal to everyone, even in upper strates of society, with good access to culture and education (which would be here the most adverse to religion). And yes, I think this whole phenomenon is rather specific to the USA. Even in Greece where many people are pious for example, daily prayers are very specific and active part of one's spiritual life, and I don't meet many people with that level of dedication to faith. It just seems oddly ... scholarly ? Like ticking boxes, as if daily prayer was of any spiritual worth in itself. I didn't emit any judgment though, everyone is free to believe whatever they want. Is it alright if expressed that way ? Can you unban my comment ? Obviously it's not my native language that's why I rather don't engage in long explanations, so sorry if I offended anyone.