It’s also natural to feel bad when you get sick. That does not mean you should avoid going to the doctor to get he best possible healing process. As for the “c

It’s also natural to feel bad when you get sick. That does not mean you should avoid going to the doctor to get he best possible healing process. As for the “convincing yourself it didn’t really matter” that is not at all what the article suggests. It’s about adjusting the idealistic view you have of the person when looking back at it. No one is perfect, so a heartbroken person telling themselves “I’ll never find anyone like him/her again” or “we where perfect for each other” are dilutions, and unhealthy delusions. Keeping a list reminding you that he/she had a habit of chewing with their mouth open and was a sore loser in sports, is not a way of “convincing yourself it didn’t matter”. It’s a way of keeping you perspective of the relationship grounded and combative unhealthy counter productive dillusions.