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> I had no idea that revving my loud ass motorbike on a residential street at 1AM was annoying people I was on a train going into London earlier this week and

> I had no idea that revving my loud ass motorbike on a residential street at 1AM was annoying people I was on a train going into London earlier this week and the guy sat behind me insisted on playing music loudly on his phone speaker. Which doubles the annoyance of being both terrible music (imo) and terrible distorted sound quality. I asked him to turn it down after being annoyed for a bit, which he did for 5 minutes and then took a phone call (speakerphone, obvs) and turned the music back on. I guess he knew I wasn't going to keep making a fuss and so didn't give a shit. It was mildly infuriating - but what are you going to do?

bovermyer 8y ago
One possible tactic is to try and strike up a conversation with him. He'll probably turn off or turn down his music if given an opportunity to talk about himself (which most people love doing).
- vinceguidry 8y ago
  I think I'd rather deal with the music.
  - fahadkhan 8y ago
    That's probably why people think it's okay to listen to music or have conversations on speakerphone. I'm not saying you are obligated to attempt to stop antisocial behaviour. You are proving his assumptions that people don't really mind.
    - vinceguidry 8y ago
      It probably is. And personally, I don't really care. Because I have my earphones in and I can't hear anything coming from the outside world. That's not to say that I can't care about rude behavior or do anything about it if it starts to persist. I've confronted more than one person who kept on with bad behaviors, at the coffee shop that I go to. Usually a politely-worded request is all that's required. I may escalate to a second politely-worded request. I think that's only been needed once in 13 years of going to the coffee shop. The baristas handle it if it gets more out of hand. There is behavior that I particularly don't have a problem with but other people do. This usually concerns the shared resource of space at the bar. One guy really needs his space, about half of a bar intended to seat 3. The coffee shop is his workplace and he needs everything just so. Other people roll their eyes and just give in, in many cases moving before he gets there. This, of course, suits him just fine. He seems to calibrate to just enough disagreeableness to get his way in this particular instance. I'm just glad I don't have to get involved and can laugh from a distance.
- ameister14 8y ago
  Talk to people...on the train?
  - chippy 8y ago
    Well, in a way he is already breaking one social convention, so one can be hope that he could be okay breaking any of them.
    - bovermyer 8y ago
      Talking to people near you is not taboo, though. Very confused about why my original comment got downvoted.
- SketchySeaBeast 8y ago
  "While in hell, offer to hold the pitchfork for a bit."

bovermyer 8y ago

One possible tactic is to try and strike up a conversation with him. He'll probably turn off or turn down his music if given an opportunity to talk about himself (which most people love doing).

vinceguidry 8y ago
I think I'd rather deal with the music.
- fahadkhan 8y ago
  That's probably why people think it's okay to listen to music or have conversations on speakerphone. I'm not saying you are obligated to attempt to stop antisocial behaviour. You are proving his assumptions that people don't really mind.
  - vinceguidry 8y ago
    It probably is. And personally, I don't really care. Because I have my earphones in and I can't hear anything coming from the outside world. That's not to say that I can't care about rude behavior or do anything about it if it starts to persist. I've confronted more than one person who kept on with bad behaviors, at the coffee shop that I go to. Usually a politely-worded request is all that's required. I may escalate to a second politely-worded request. I think that's only been needed once in 13 years of going to the coffee shop. The baristas handle it if it gets more out of hand. There is behavior that I particularly don't have a problem with but other people do. This usually concerns the shared resource of space at the bar. One guy really needs his space, about half of a bar intended to seat 3. The coffee shop is his workplace and he needs everything just so. Other people roll their eyes and just give in, in many cases moving before he gets there. This, of course, suits him just fine. He seems to calibrate to just enough disagreeableness to get his way in this particular instance. I'm just glad I don't have to get involved and can laugh from a distance.
ameister14 8y ago
Talk to people...on the train?
- chippy 8y ago
  Well, in a way he is already breaking one social convention, so one can be hope that he could be okay breaking any of them.
  - bovermyer 8y ago
    Talking to people near you is not taboo, though. Very confused about why my original comment got downvoted.
SketchySeaBeast 8y ago
"While in hell, offer to hold the pitchfork for a bit."