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A weird amount of gaslighting and over/under victimization going on in this thread. Everything is relative to the experience, but the one real truth is how some
by jadbox 8y ago
A weird amount of gaslighting and over/under victimization going on in this thread. Everything is relative to the experience, but the one real truth is how someone feels about the experience. He doesn't overly blame the offices or the shop, but rather trying to understand how his situation applies to something larger. We can have empathy for all the actors in the situation without needing to cutdown or over rationalize more than one person telling their story.
- pitt1980 8y agoexcept that it doesn't apply to the something larger the way he's trying to apply it
- polotics 8y agoI have a serious issue with your statement: "the one real truth is how someone feels about the experience". How is this not moral relativism? Also can you explain what gaslighting you saw?
- jadbox 8y agoTruth of what is known, not of what actually happened. No one else has written about their view of the experience (or we're aware of), so the only knowledge of the situation is one person's accounting. Not a statement of moral relativism, although that's a complex subject in itself. Gaslighting can be viewed as any statement here that either fabricates or contrudes another's internal feelings. For example several comments mention that the situation he felt wasn't traumatic. That term is an emotional response and often doesn't require being a rational one. My grandmother had a traumatic event when an egg she was cooking exploded. Sure it's silly, but to tell someone that a feeling isn't real is being a bully. At other times, that feeling can give us an insight into the experience that might just be too easy to otherwise rationalize away.
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