We don't live in a world in which men must approach women. I was approached by my partner, as have been several male friends of mine. One female friend of min

We don't live in a world in which men must approach women. I was approached by my partner, as have been several male friends of mine. One female friend of mine even proposed to her boyfriend--reversal of the usual situation, which is uncommon but not unheard of. Incels aren't only men. There are female incels, but they're not violent because women aren't socialized to solve problems with violence. There's a lot on the subject of female incels; google around a bit and you'll find it. It isn't hard for a woman to bother a man with sexual harassment, either. My first job out of school, one of the admin staff was a "playful" woman who kept a riding crop on her desk. She started swatting me with it "playfully," except it wasn't playful and I was made to feel very uncomfortable by this overt sexual harassment in the workplace.