> You still have no useful tools with which to make your life better. Nonsense, you can now use mental health best practices to treat yourself or seek help fro

> You still have no useful tools with which to make your life better. Nonsense, you can now use mental health best practices to treat yourself or seek help from someone who can treat you. I say this because I’ve seen this precise scenario: someone told a family member they were narcissistic and to get help, and they did, and they’re largely a more pleasant person to be around now. It took years to effect this change, but I sincerely believe labels can help; even in self diagnosis. That said, this type of self awareness is a modern phenomenon—David Foster Wallace captured the negative aspects of this quite well in some of his stuff (infinite jest and Men Who Stare At Goats come to mind). The answer for me was meditation and finding a better balance between stress and relaxation; I think true mindfulness (....not an app) could really help here. And, of course, you need to want to change. This may be the hardest part of watching someone deal with monkeys on their back.