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That's a good point. I also don't like that these discussions of wealth are always accompanied by a discussion of income and then they end. Especially in an art

That's a good point. I also don't like that these discussions of wealth are always accompanied by a discussion of income and then they end. Especially in an article where debt is featured so prominently. Significantly raising one's income and seeing it as the sole dividing factor between oneself and others becomes part of a false system of hope for many. A saving habit _and_ reasonable living on one's income, no matter the level, will _often_ quickly result in the kind of savings that will pay for those big restaurant meals, if needed, or those vacations, if needed. My friends who are good savers tend to take vacations to really nice places without needing to spend a lot when they get there. So they have more money for the next vacation, etc. There are people who are unfairly saddled with debt, to whom this doesn't really apply as readily, but it'd be nice if messages like "wow, sad, income levels make life so hard" could be accompanied by "but here's what many of you who are reading this can do at any level to feel on top of things." We are short-changing our children by not bundling that more realistic discussion with discussions of income.

ansgri 8y ago
That's an interesting comment. It made me think about having two different kinds of wealth: wealth enabling things and wealth freeing from problems. If you can do fancy things with careful planning, that's one thing. Doing fancy things without burdening yourself with complicated cost-benefit analysis is the other, and it's probably the latter that gives more freedom and the one the article talks about.
kaitai 8y ago
Reading "The Millionaire Next Door," as much a of a cliche or a classic as it is right now, really opened my eyes to some of this nuance for me. The book points out that many high earners are still living paycheck to paycheck, and some lower earners do quite well by saving aggressively. So who is rich, the software engineer who earns $120k/year in a LCoL area and takes expensive vacations and buys photography equipment and has a nice house & great car and has little saved, or the senior school teacher who makes $80k and saves a ton, but doesn't take the expensive vacations, drives a 20-year-old Civic, and enjoys gardening? What's the definition of rich? What's the definition of value? What do you want in life? The other aspect is (as you and parent posters note) the comparison with others. If you live in an expensive area where everyone drives a nice car, pays for a gardener, and sends the kid to a high-tuition school, you'll stand out if you drive a 2008 Civic, have an adequate but not nice yard, and send the kid to the public kindergarten. "Comparison is the thief of joy," said someone. I personally was much happier with my un-professionally-landscaped yard and small house and used car in my middle-class neighborhood when I realized that those were reasons we have a higher net worth than most of our peers, not signs that we don't.

ansgri 8y ago

That's an interesting comment. It made me think about having two different kinds of wealth: wealth enabling things and wealth freeing from problems. If you can do fancy things with careful planning, that's one thing. Doing fancy things without burdening yourself with complicated cost-benefit analysis is the other, and it's probably the latter that gives more freedom and the one the article talks about.

kaitai 8y ago

Reading "The Millionaire Next Door," as much a of a cliche or a classic as it is right now, really opened my eyes to some of this nuance for me. The book points out that many high earners are still living paycheck to paycheck, and some lower earners do quite well by saving aggressively. So who is rich, the software engineer who earns $120k/year in a LCoL area and takes expensive vacations and buys photography equipment and has a nice house & great car and has little saved, or the senior school teacher who makes $80k and saves a ton, but doesn't take the expensive vacations, drives a 20-year-old Civic, and enjoys gardening? What's the definition of rich? What's the definition of value? What do you want in life? The other aspect is (as you and parent posters note) the comparison with others. If you live in an expensive area where everyone drives a nice car, pays for a gardener, and sends the kid to a high-tuition school, you'll stand out if you drive a 2008 Civic, have an adequate but not nice yard, and send the kid to the public kindergarten. "Comparison is the thief of joy," said someone. I personally was much happier with my un-professionally-landscaped yard and small house and used car in my middle-class neighborhood when I realized that those were reasons we have a higher net worth than most of our peers, not signs that we don't.