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> "My biggest fear before every launch was the reaction of the people" Today I was looking at a project one person posted on the internet. A labor of work, pro

> "My biggest fear before every launch was the reaction of the people" Today I was looking at a project one person posted on the internet. A labor of work, probably a week. One of the few comments was "Is this real? [...] This is dumb and useless." Imagine being that person, spending a lot of time crafting something, even just for fun, being told that. You probably won't do anything like that ever again. The best thing as a maker is finding a welcoming community and a place where even if you fail, it's not the end of the world, tomorrow is a new day and you can make something new that will succeed. This post is so inspiring, I joined your newsletter to follow the journey!

oligopoly 8y ago
Is one person really going to take you out of course if you are doing something you want? In that case you have to figure out what you really want. Getting in shape people criticising gave the added fuel to succeed and storm ahead
- iovrthoughtthis 8y ago
  Well, yeah. Some people have a low self intertia. It takes very little external preasure to change their perception of them selves. They can’t just “fix” that. Many don’t even know they could “fix” it. It’s like a parent telling a kid they suck at somthing. It has a lasting effect on the persons perception of them selves.
- sidstling 8y ago
  If you’re so afraid of rejection that you’re willing to postpone something, then a few overtly negative responses can certainly dissuade you from trying again. The author in the article was talking about the reaction of friends, so we can’t say whether or not random internet comments would have meant something to the author, but they certainly do to some people. I think it’s a valuable skill to be able to save your criticism for when it really matters to you, and then to deliver it in a thoughtful manner. Even if you’re anonymous on the internet. A good rule, for me, especially on the internet is to ask myself what I hope to achieve from someone reading what I post. In that context I certainly hope you’d never write “Is this real? [...] This is dumb and useless.".
chrisco255 8y ago
I think that criticism is essential. Obviously many folks on the internet lack tact for delivering criticism in a constructive way...but developing resiliency to criticism is a necessary component of life and in particular, startup life.
rajacombinator 8y ago
If you did something dumb enough to get such negative feedback, at least you can learn something. No feedback or generic too-nice feedback is worse - no one cares!
- Baeocystin 8y ago
  Yup. There are two types of things in the world; things people complain about, and things people don't use. If you've gotten a complaint, that's already miles ahead of the vast majority of stuff that is never even seen! (nb- I am not being sarcastic. I genuinely do think this.)
stockkid 8y ago
> The best thing as a maker is finding a welcoming community Even better would be learning to be completely immune to harsh criticisms that are not constructive. i.e. not giving them any more emotional validity than they deserve.

oligopoly 8y ago

Is one person really going to take you out of course if you are doing something you want? In that case you have to figure out what you really want. Getting in shape people criticising gave the added fuel to succeed and storm ahead

iovrthoughtthis 8y ago
Well, yeah. Some people have a low self intertia. It takes very little external preasure to change their perception of them selves. They can’t just “fix” that. Many don’t even know they could “fix” it. It’s like a parent telling a kid they suck at somthing. It has a lasting effect on the persons perception of them selves.
sidstling 8y ago
If you’re so afraid of rejection that you’re willing to postpone something, then a few overtly negative responses can certainly dissuade you from trying again. The author in the article was talking about the reaction of friends, so we can’t say whether or not random internet comments would have meant something to the author, but they certainly do to some people. I think it’s a valuable skill to be able to save your criticism for when it really matters to you, and then to deliver it in a thoughtful manner. Even if you’re anonymous on the internet. A good rule, for me, especially on the internet is to ask myself what I hope to achieve from someone reading what I post. In that context I certainly hope you’d never write “Is this real? [...] This is dumb and useless.".

chrisco255 8y ago

I think that criticism is essential. Obviously many folks on the internet lack tact for delivering criticism in a constructive way...but developing resiliency to criticism is a necessary component of life and in particular, startup life.

rajacombinator 8y ago

If you did something dumb enough to get such negative feedback, at least you can learn something. No feedback or generic too-nice feedback is worse - no one cares!

Baeocystin 8y ago
Yup. There are two types of things in the world; things people complain about, and things people don't use. If you've gotten a complaint, that's already miles ahead of the vast majority of stuff that is never even seen! (nb- I am not being sarcastic. I genuinely do think this.)

stockkid 8y ago

> The best thing as a maker is finding a welcoming community Even better would be learning to be completely immune to harsh criticisms that are not constructive. i.e. not giving them any more emotional validity than they deserve.