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The problem with pinning responsibility on that parent is, the original decision that led to this situation may predate the parent. Maybe they were raised by a
by Jormundir 8y ago
The problem with pinning responsibility on that parent is, the original decision that led to this situation may predate the parent. Maybe they were raised by a single mom with many siblings and not enough resources too. Maybe they live somewhere deeply conservative where contraception isn't taught about. To act like the parent is wholly responsible is unrealistic and naive.
- malcolmgreaves 8y agoThey are responsible though. Unless you want to take away decision making power from a person. This realization does not have to incur any sort of "well you deserve this outcome and sucks to be you" sort of logic, however. It is the parent's fault for creating the situation, but society can choose to bail one out for poor decision making.
- jdmichal 8y agoI haven't seen anyone say anything about not being responsible. I have seen people say something about not being wholly responsible.
- Jormundir 8y agoAre you trying to bury your head in the sand? My situation is probably drastically determined by some stranger 200 years ago who decided hopping in a pile of potatoes on barge headed for the US was a good idea. Thank you distant relative, that was a genius idea! The point isn't to act like people aren't responsible for their own actions, of course they are. The point is to be realistic about how much of our situations are attributable to our personal decision making. People don't exist in small vacuums where they control everything.
- cincosaltos 8y agoAnd that stranger 200 years ago made a decision somehow. Most african-american people in the context of this thread are descendants of enslaved individuals brought to this continent against their will.