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I also think the headline seems misleading, even if you start reading the first few paragraphs. I think advice giving doesn't necessarily confer power. Especia
by carlmr 8y ago
I also think the headline seems misleading, even if you start reading the first few paragraphs.
I think advice giving doesn't necessarily confer power. Especially if you're always handing out unwanted advice, a lot of people don't like that. They get hurt in their pride because they believe they can do it without you.
If you want to exercise power through advice you have to ask good questions to find out whether the advised person actually needs your advice, and in which area specifically. You have to get to a point where they actually ask for it.
- watwut 8y agoThere are also other reasons to dislike unsolicited advice. * It robs you of possibility to figure it out for yourself and think for yourself. It kills pleasure or achievement of whatever activity you are doing. It prevents learning. * You look less capable to third parties. That actually matters. * It is often wrong, as whoever gives that advice does not have full information. As in, I am doing it this way and not that way for a reason and really really don't care about defending my choices to strangers who are no more qualified then me.
- Swizec 8y agoI think the base assumption with advice giving, when considered a positive, should be that the recipient asked for advice.