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No, but it’s hard on a level you can’t understand until you do it.
by marmadukester39 8y ago
No, but it’s hard on a level you can’t understand until you do it.
- namuol 8y agoThis is an example of dismissing someone else's perspective. Have you considered that someone might choose not to have children because they understand how difficult it is?
- sixstringtheory 8y agoYou could say they correctly assume it’s hard, but to really understand it, they’d need to experience it, no?
- mac01021 8y agoNo. There are many ways to understand. They could witness a close friend or sibling struggling to raise children. They could simply reason about the commitment of time and money required and take note of all the other things in life that parenthood would require them to give up.
- Hannan 8y agoYou can hear about the experience of a POW, but it won't ever be the same as being a POW. Not trying to equate the two, just showing how telling/imagining aren't quite the same as experiencing.
- projektir 8y agoSure, but that's true for everything, there's nothing unique about parenting here. I.e., you similarly don't have quite the same experience as a no-kids person who has depression. Yet this argument seems to come exclusively from parents, assigning parenthood a special status, which makes no sense, since parenting is extremely commom.
- nojvek 8y agoThis is the same argument as “men will never understand women because to truly understand a woman, you have to be a woman” Well, empathy is quite a real thing. Also everyone’s experience is different, so even if you are a woman, you “truly don’t know what it means to be a woman”.
- nitwit005 8y agoOnce you're arguing the philosophy of knowing something as learned knowledge versus personal experience, the discussion has kind of gone off the rails.
- projektir 8y agoGiven that people can relate to plenty of other experiences, I'm not sure why they wouldn't be able to relate to such a common one.