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I assume people do this as a result of Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People: > Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and
by joshvm 8y ago
I assume people do this as a result of Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People:
> Remember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
This may have been sound advice in 1936, but maybe we've just changed socially? There's a subtlety here: people like it when you remember their names, but they find it creepy if you don't have an established relationship.
If you meet someone again in a business or social context, saying "Hi, X, right?" is a reasonable way to improve rapport. Definitely better than the awkward moment where you re-introduce yourself to someone you've already met. However, when you're trying to haggle a mobile contract upgrade and the rep is constantly using your name, that's uncanny valley.
- dsr_ 8y agoIn natural conversation in American English of the 21st century, people use a name only to get your attention or to refer to you when talking to another participant. "Pat, good to see you. Have you met Sandy?" "Charlie? Could you explain that bit again?" Those are natural. Unnatural: "Well, Bob, I'm glad you asked." "Can I get you to sign today, Sandy?"