If you find a behavior you don't like, figure out what's causing it. It's probably not random, parents are probably not just being dumb. Test scores, or minor

If you find a behavior you don't like, figure out what's causing it. It's probably not random, parents are probably not just being dumb. Test scores, or minor misbehaviors, or other things, can disproportionately influence someone's future, to extents that are not realistic or human. Children, left to their own devices, will have trouble surviving in a world that runs on rules that don't actually make sense. Parents can sense this, so they try to protect their children, and they play by the rules that they see. There's no advantage to being fair, to doing things the "right" way, because the message has already gotten out that the rules are arbitrary. It's not important what you know, it's important that you pass the test. Or, as they say, "best predictor of future behavior is past behavior" (very horrible sentiment). If you don't want parents being overzealous and a bit crazy about their children, stop making society so damn competitive and inflexible. There are so many pitfalls someone can fall down just by accident, just by being human.