It’s because behavior is an emergent property of a dynamical system, and that means that if you want a particular behavior, you have to know when to provide inp

It’s because behavior is an emergent property of a dynamical system, and that means that if you want a particular behavior, you have to know when to provide input and when to let the system process. If you want a plant to bear fruit, you have to nurture it for a while, and you will never be able to browbeat it into producing fruit before it has developed the facilities for doing so. Part of effective parenting is resolving the dependency tree for healthy attitude/behavior in your child.