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So what would you recommend for potential parents who don't have the years of hands-on experience that your wife had?
by nugget 8y ago
So what would you recommend for potential parents who don't have the years of hands-on experience that your wife had?
- analog31 8y agoBe born with genes for incredible self discipline and emotional stamina, and your kids are likely to be born with those genes as well. In fact, all the books I read said that you have to apply the techniques with total consistency and regularity, or the method doesn't work. That's something I'm utterly incapable of doing.
- dragonwriter 8y ago> In fact, all the books I read said that you have to apply the techniques with total consistency and regularity, or the method doesn't work. Note that's long been a line used when people are selling stuff they know doesn't work, because people don't do much of anything with total consistency and regularity, so when the inevitable failures occur, you've pre-biased the buyer of your woo to find an excuse to blame themselves, rather than the snake-oil you sold them. Even if it's not knowing fraud, any parenting approach that doesn't accommodate and specifically address the reality that parents are fallible isn't going to work with real people very well, even if it might work for the mythical beasts it must be designed for.
- astura 8y agoI have a nanny friend. FWIW her advice is always (paraphrasing): "Kids are like dogs, you reward and encourage behavior you want and punish and discourage behavior you do want."
- astura 8y agoTypo: "Kids are like dogs, you reward and encourage behavior you want and punish and discourage behavior you do NOT want."