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I am continually surprised by HN and its reluctance to call out mental health issues. It is not normal to feel like your world is ending when you're under pres

I am continually surprised by HN and its reluctance to call out mental health issues. It is not normal to feel like your world is ending when you're under pressure. Forget the rest of this stuff. You don't need more tests. Talk to a councillor with the aim they can fix or refer you onto CBT, or a psychiatrist to mediate. There is no shame in this. Not dealing with it is only going to cause unnecessary suffering. Address it and your interviews and life at a whole will all go a lot better.

Tmp1234 8y ago
You're not wrong that there's a mental health issue at hand. There's also a lot riding on my ability to do these leetcode questions. I've been talking to councilors for the past decade, but I'm at a point where I need to be financially independent. I wrote more about it in this comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17594084 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17594084
- oliwarner 8y ago
  But why do you want to work somewhere where you have this grotesquely irrelevant gauntlet? A silly interview process doesn't mean it's a good job or a good company, it just means they've got more applicants than they know what to do with. I know there's a lot of pressure here to work a 80h week but you can be financially independent without pressure. Just pick your battle. You've got a skill. Believe it or not, programmers are needed all around the world. The pay is dramatically variable but so are living costs. Move. Find a nice town with a small software company that's hiring and start a life. Get your head straight. Read. Get a hobby. It's all much easier when you're not blowing $3k/month on a 1 bed studio. You can also work shunt jobs directly for companies. Build websites, build apps. Lots of project management and quoting for things that never come to fruition but it's a job and very little overhead. I'm not trying to put you down. I'm sure you can jump start you happiness the way you're desperately trying to... But stepping into a low pressure job somewhere where it's dirt cheap to live is a much healthier approach to the problem you have.

Tmp1234 8y ago

You're not wrong that there's a mental health issue at hand. There's also a lot riding on my ability to do these leetcode questions. I've been talking to councilors for the past decade, but I'm at a point where I need to be financially independent. I wrote more about it in this comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17594084 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17594084

oliwarner 8y ago
But why do you want to work somewhere where you have this grotesquely irrelevant gauntlet? A silly interview process doesn't mean it's a good job or a good company, it just means they've got more applicants than they know what to do with. I know there's a lot of pressure here to work a 80h week but you can be financially independent without pressure. Just pick your battle. You've got a skill. Believe it or not, programmers are needed all around the world. The pay is dramatically variable but so are living costs. Move. Find a nice town with a small software company that's hiring and start a life. Get your head straight. Read. Get a hobby. It's all much easier when you're not blowing $3k/month on a 1 bed studio. You can also work shunt jobs directly for companies. Build websites, build apps. Lots of project management and quoting for things that never come to fruition but it's a job and very little overhead. I'm not trying to put you down. I'm sure you can jump start you happiness the way you're desperately trying to... But stepping into a low pressure job somewhere where it's dirt cheap to live is a much healthier approach to the problem you have.