Get a therapist to deal with the anxiety. There are plenty of nondev jobs for things where you use your tech background with no programming like program manager

Get a therapist to deal with the anxiety. There are plenty of nondev jobs for things where you use your tech background with no programming like program manager (tech planning for a project), project manager (organize the project), esp in big companies. But I would suggest a therapist. Probably grad school to get more experience is not warranted until you know if you want to stay w cs, but something where you can get more confidence like an internship.