Yeah, it just doesn't work. Then you argue about whether you called somebody an asshole, and you're on the defensive (even though the other person was a jerk).

Yeah, it just doesn't work. Then you argue about whether you called somebody an asshole, and you're on the defensive (even though the other person was a jerk). I think what _may_ work is "don't be a jerk" or "stop being a jerk".