Nothing? At the time they helped us out, we had just joined the parish. Then we went on a six month hiatus because we were too depressed, but the other deacon i

Nothing? At the time they helped us out, we had just joined the parish. Then we went on a six month hiatus because we were too depressed, but the other deacon invited me to drink beer, because he hadn't seen me in a while. Didn't even have to pay for the beer. Of course, as somewhat active members of the parish, we help out a lot. We volunteer for the marriage prep ministry, and I often help the men's club out with various improvement projects, by contributing brute strength or woodworking skills. Not all 'tithing' is monetary. FWIW, it helps if you find a parish that is associated with a religious order, where the members are vowed to poverty. Diocesan priests tend to be the ones with the most monetary ambition.