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> The people it doesn't help are the people who put no effort into the process. I’ve heard this repeated a lot. I have no doubt this is true for some people (m
by Osmium 8y ago
> The people it doesn't help are the people who put no effort into the process.
I’ve heard this repeated a lot. I have no doubt this is true for some people (maybe even the majority of people for which therapy doesn’t work, I don’t know). However, I wouldn’t want to claim this is the only reason. Especially since it’s a great effort for many people to even make it to therapy in the first place. They are making an effort. And it’s disheartening to then turn around and tell them they’re the problem if it doesn’t work.
- mikec3010 8y agoIf merely getting someplace is a great effort, they are in need of medication from a psychiatrist. They aren't candidates for therapy if that's the extent of their participation.
- cm2012 8y agoThat's so untrue I literally dropped my jaw. Any therapist that treats anxiety can tell you it's extremely hard for some therapy needing patients (who, yes, are on medication) to make appointments. My wife included.
- jschwartzi 8y agoSpeaking from experience it was incredibly hard to start. I waited 6 months between when I knew I had a problem before I made a concerted effort to find a therapist. Talking to another human being about my internal state took a lot of effort. I had to push through it.
- mikec3010 8y agoCut the theatrics. Showing up and sitting there isn't going to do a damn thing. She might as well pray.
- mercer 8y agoWhat's your aim here? Honest question?
- rhencke 8y agoThis is false, and damaging to believe. I was one of those you speak of, that merely getting there was a great effort. Therapy did me immense amounts of good, where I can thankfully live a reasonably normal, content life today. But, starting out, you better believe it took everything I had just to get up the will to drive there, and even sit there, and nothing more. I don't think you understand how much of a breakthrough it is for some people to even get to this point, and how _fragile_ things can be at that point, either. Just even getting someone to agree to sit down with a therapist can be a massive step for them - to finally start working to confront things. Psychiatric medication does not provide a magic pill that restores your will and motivation. If only it did! Things would be so much easier, and I could have saved a lot of time on therapy.
- lhuser123 8y agoI go a step further and think that with psychiatric medications there’s a chance to get worse without you even noticing that’s happening. Meanwhile, talking have no side effects.
- mikec3010 8y agoSo all you did was sit there, like a TV viewer? Eyes glued to your therapist? And that miraculously changed your life? Was your therapist Benny Hinn?
- cm2012 8y agoHaving trouble going to the therapist is not even close to the same as not engaging with the therapist once you're there. What are you talking about?