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As weird as this post was, it was still only half a post. Lots of interesting thoughts, but the most important questions were never addressed: 1. Where do

by edw519 16y ago

As weird as this post was, it was still only half a post. Lots of interesting thoughts, but the most important questions were never addressed: 1. Where do you go? 2. How do you find it? 3. How do avoid being in the same position a year later? OP's advice is a recipe for a bad resume and a more miserable employee. Sometimes you just gotta put up with a little shit for a while before the right path becomes available to you. Ironically, the times when OP advises you to leave can be your opportunities of greatest growth when you don't even realize it.

Supermighty 16y ago
One step at a time. And allowing yourself to leave is sometimes the hardest one to take.
ia 16y ago
I agree that following OP's advice would make for a bad resume--no one has ever worked in a situation that didn't hit at least one of those points. I think a good question to ask is, at what point have you passed the point of having to "put up with a little shit" and moved into the realm of "genuinely unhappy with your job"? The answer to this becomes especially important if you're the type who can't shut off after work--the type who needs progress and productivity on a daily basis, instead of stagnation.
madhancr 16y ago
OP has a point. In my previous job, when I looked around, it seemed like almost everyone seemed be to just coming to the job to get paid. In some pathetic cases, after seeing some really unhappy people dragging it for over a year, I have screamed silently - why don't they go find something else ? This post makes a point, but its not to be taken literally.
- rglullis 16y ago
  >> why don't they go find something else? - Because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. - Because s/he can't afford to quit a job when her/his spouse has just been laid-off. - Because the car/house/dental treatment hasn't been paid-off. - Because those students loans can not be deferred - Because this company actually pays for the a good part of tuition, and requires that the employee stays for at least a couple of years after graduating. - Because the person has already left four or five different jobs previously, so it's getting harder and harder to justify to an interviewer why the company should hire someone that can't stay at the same place for more than 18 months
bialecki 16y ago
>> 3. How do avoid being in the same position a year later? Seems to me the wrong question to be asking. Being in the position where you need to "challenge yourself" (and leaving is one way to do so), shouldn't be a problem, it's just something you need to notice and resolve. As for the other questions, they are great questions, but you'll only ever find ancedotal answers. The serendipity of how you found the next thing and what it was are the rewards for taking the risk. I usually find the story of how companies or people made themselves far more interesting than what they became.

by edw519 16y ago

Supermighty 16y ago

One step at a time. And allowing yourself to leave is sometimes the hardest one to take.

ia 16y ago

I agree that following OP's advice would make for a bad resume--no one has ever worked in a situation that didn't hit at least one of those points. I think a good question to ask is, at what point have you passed the point of having to "put up with a little shit" and moved into the realm of "genuinely unhappy with your job"? The answer to this becomes especially important if you're the type who can't shut off after work--the type who needs progress and productivity on a daily basis, instead of stagnation.

madhancr 16y ago

OP has a point. In my previous job, when I looked around, it seemed like almost everyone seemed be to just coming to the job to get paid. In some pathetic cases, after seeing some really unhappy people dragging it for over a year, I have screamed silently - why don't they go find something else ? This post makes a point, but its not to be taken literally.

rglullis 16y ago
>> why don't they go find something else? - Because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. - Because s/he can't afford to quit a job when her/his spouse has just been laid-off. - Because the car/house/dental treatment hasn't been paid-off. - Because those students loans can not be deferred - Because this company actually pays for the a good part of tuition, and requires that the employee stays for at least a couple of years after graduating. - Because the person has already left four or five different jobs previously, so it's getting harder and harder to justify to an interviewer why the company should hire someone that can't stay at the same place for more than 18 months

bialecki 16y ago

>> 3. How do avoid being in the same position a year later? Seems to me the wrong question to be asking. Being in the position where you need to "challenge yourself" (and leaving is one way to do so), shouldn't be a problem, it's just something you need to notice and resolve. As for the other questions, they are great questions, but you'll only ever find ancedotal answers. The serendipity of how you found the next thing and what it was are the rewards for taking the risk. I usually find the story of how companies or people made themselves far more interesting than what they became.