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Cool, I’m not special validation. I like the focus on quality while present. That’s what I sell. If I forget to tell a new partner, now... we gave a great date
by harlanji 8y ago
Cool, I’m not special validation. I like the focus on quality while present. That’s what I sell.
If I forget to tell a new partner, now... we gave a great date and then she wants to start texting intensely, and feels I’m blowing her off and has resulted in anger over being led on/brushed off.
No loss on my part, but I always forget on my first few dates after some time off and it results in disappointment or worse on their part, seemingly needlessly.
Careful out there, fellow focus junkies.
- itronitron 8y agoYou could be missing out on a valuable life-term relationship if you aren't willing to accommodate other people's needs for some assurance.
- rejschaap 8y agoOr he could be dodging bullets. He's probably not looking for such a relationship. If he's not willing to accommodate, than not accommodating filters out the people who need accommodating... I'd say that is pretty much working as intended.
- ravenstine 8y agoI don't know about him, but that describes me pretty well. As I've gotten older, I've been getting much more satisfaction out of doing things other than pursuing relationships. At this point, I just don't even care anymore. Well, okay, there's always going to be a shred of me that will think "what if" with some women that come in to my life, but I realize just how uncompromising I am and how that I will never change, and that trait really isn't fair to a partner in a relationship. If someone can accommodate me while I'm able to accommodate for them, then sure. But until that happens, I'm really just fine being who I am and not being fraudulent by acting nice to keep the favor of family and friends.