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The worst thing about so many of these "positive people" is that their comments are meaningless and their opinions carry no weight. If everyone and everything e

The worst thing about so many of these "positive people" is that their comments are meaningless and their opinions carry no weight. If everyone and everything everyone's doing is "great", "great" has become synonymous with "average","typical" and "unremarkable".

gromy 8y ago
Yikes! Here are some books I’d recommend for you: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Positive-Brain-Success/dp/0307591557/ https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Positive-Brain-Su... https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419/ https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Tra... https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274/ https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happin... https://www.amazon.com/One-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary-Results/dp/1848549253/ https://www.amazon.com/One-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary-...
- beenBoutIT 8y ago
  I don't view myself as a "negative person", although I've been repeatedly diagnosed as such by "positive people" for pointing out truths that they would have preferred to ignore indefinitely. At the end-of-the-day, these "positive people" make up the bulk of humanity and the universe is constantly ridding itself of them through the natural consequences of their actions.
  - gromy 8y ago
    Start with The Courage to be Disliked - @stewart recommended it this weekend. https://twitter.com/stewart/status/1018229367929880576 https://twitter.com/stewart/status/1018229367929880576
  - crack-the-code 8y ago
    I think you are going about this all the wrong way. You seem to think that most people who use positive words are just putting up a facade and using these words for the sake of using them. Consider the co-worker who acknowledges hard work you do, and appreciates you for your effort. This acknowledgement gives this you a sense of accomplishment, which in turn makes you feel happier and better. Consider the neighbor who offers help when he notices you have a problem with your car, or gives you advice that helps you solve your problem easier. Consider the person who recognizes that you have a disability or health defect, and chooses to help you and provide you with positive reinforcement to help you focus on progress and feel better about your situation. I think the article, and the notion of "positive people," is more than just throwing a word around. It's about people who add weight and meaning to their words through thoughtful consideration and genuine compassion.
    - GoToRO 8y ago
      There will be no progress if the crap you just made is considered "awesome"...
      - crack-the-code 8y ago
        Who said that it had to be considered "awesome"? And why dont you educate us on what qualifies as a mechanism for progress?
        GoToRO 8y ago
        you said it: "most people who use positive words" I don't educate people that are not ready to be educated!
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adamsea 8y ago
positive != bullshit
- enneff 8y ago
  Exactly. It is possible can assess the same situation and emphasize either the negatives or the positives and be honest in both cases.
abakus 8y ago
Also they tend to downvote comments that do carry weight, so from this perspecitve, they are not that positive after all.
mmirate 8y ago
Indeed; if everything is special/important/priority/good, then nothing is special/important/priority/good. Words have meaning dually by the set of things they name and the set of things they don't.

gromy 8y ago

Yikes! Here are some books I’d recommend for you: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Positive-Brain-Success/dp/0307591557/ https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Positive-Brain-Su... https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419/ https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Tra... https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274/ https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happin... https://www.amazon.com/One-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary-Results/dp/1848549253/ https://www.amazon.com/One-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary-...

beenBoutIT 8y ago
I don't view myself as a "negative person", although I've been repeatedly diagnosed as such by "positive people" for pointing out truths that they would have preferred to ignore indefinitely. At the end-of-the-day, these "positive people" make up the bulk of humanity and the universe is constantly ridding itself of them through the natural consequences of their actions.
- gromy 8y ago
  Start with The Courage to be Disliked - @stewart recommended it this weekend. https://twitter.com/stewart/status/1018229367929880576 https://twitter.com/stewart/status/1018229367929880576
- crack-the-code 8y ago
  I think you are going about this all the wrong way. You seem to think that most people who use positive words are just putting up a facade and using these words for the sake of using them. Consider the co-worker who acknowledges hard work you do, and appreciates you for your effort. This acknowledgement gives this you a sense of accomplishment, which in turn makes you feel happier and better. Consider the neighbor who offers help when he notices you have a problem with your car, or gives you advice that helps you solve your problem easier. Consider the person who recognizes that you have a disability or health defect, and chooses to help you and provide you with positive reinforcement to help you focus on progress and feel better about your situation. I think the article, and the notion of "positive people," is more than just throwing a word around. It's about people who add weight and meaning to their words through thoughtful consideration and genuine compassion.
  - GoToRO 8y ago
    There will be no progress if the crap you just made is considered "awesome"...
    - crack-the-code 8y ago
      Who said that it had to be considered "awesome"? And why dont you educate us on what qualifies as a mechanism for progress?
      - GoToRO 8y ago
        you said it: "most people who use positive words" I don't educate people that are not ready to be educated!
        deleted 8y ago
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adamsea 8y ago

positive != bullshit

enneff 8y ago
Exactly. It is possible can assess the same situation and emphasize either the negatives or the positives and be honest in both cases.

abakus 8y ago

Also they tend to downvote comments that do carry weight, so from this perspecitve, they are not that positive after all.

mmirate 8y ago

Indeed; if everything is special/important/priority/good, then nothing is special/important/priority/good. Words have meaning dually by the set of things they name and the set of things they don't.