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This goes much further than just jokes. It's better to never to say someone is an asshole. As if it's an immutable part of their character. It's almost always b
by fergatmuhacct 8y ago
This goes much further than just jokes. It's better to never to say someone is an asshole. As if it's an immutable part of their character. It's almost always better to say someone is acting like an asshole. Or in more extreme cases someone often acts like an asshole.
This leaves room for improvement/reevaluation and it's actually far more accurate in almost all cases.
- ant6n 8y agoPeople, when being told that they're being an asshole, often don't make distinction. "You called me an asshole!"
- fergatmuhacct 8y ago"I did not say you are an asshole. I said you're acting like one right now."
- ant6n 8y agoYeah, it just doesn't work. Then you argue about whether you called somebody an asshole, and you're on the defensive (even though the other person was a jerk). I think what _may_ work is "don't be a jerk" or "stop being a jerk".