I've been thinking about this all day long. I don't understand why it's so hard to understand and I don't mean that is a bad way, just a observational thought.

I've been thinking about this all day long. I don't understand why it's so hard to understand and I don't mean that is a bad way, just a observational thought. Being good and giving to others is great. Wanting others to do the same is fine. Expecting them to do it is wrong. Do you get the nuances of each statement? When you declare that others should live as you would, you are saying 'I know better.' When you expect people to do the same as you would, you judge them based on their actions. You are being selfish by expecting everyone else to live like you and not be their own self. When other people do not do as you like and you try to force them to do something (in this case a steamy news article) you have taken the position as master in the master/slave arrangement. You might think slavery is bad simply because of the cruelty, I see slavery as the relationship of those in power demanding from others any action they deem fit. Slavery as the coercion of other people by any means, normally a whip, this time with supposed morals. (If other people have to participate in your morals for them to be correct, then they are not morals at all.) To go further about the selfish part, When other people do the things you want and that makes you feel good, you are being selfish because you are not letting that person do things for themselves. You are making them do things for your own self to feel right. If you were not selfish, the actions of other people would not make a difference.