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You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.

by jm__87 8y ago

GW150914 8y ago
I mean, if someone is shot, you can still surgically intervene without them having to participate. It’s true in psych that you have to help yourself, but it’s also true that’s probsbly a valid critique of the art rather than science that is psych. Talk therapy has more in common with spiritual guidance or shamanism than medicine, except where the actual medicine enters the fray in the form of drugs and surgery. If you’re willing to help yourself, talking to someone is often helpful, but that’s been known for thousands of years. A real intervention doesn’t require someone to help themselves; an appendectomy doesn’t require patient participation and motivation.
- jm__87 8y ago
  I mean, if someone is shot, you can still surgically intervene without them having to participate. Okay, this is clearly not what we were talking about. Sorry I was not more specific in my statement to generalize to all scenarios, ever. Edit: I think it is also a pretty fair assumption that if someone is shot or their appendix is about to burst, they would want help. The key difference here is that someone who is shot is not capable of helping themselves - with regards to many things people go to therapy for, the only way to fix your problems is going to be taking some actions yourself.
  - GW150914 8y ago
    Consent is one thing “my appendix is killing me, help!” while actually doing the work yourself is another. Obviously any intervention requires consent to really work, but once you’ve consented to the appendectomy your role ends. You don’t have to actively engage in your own surgery past the act of wanting it. By contrast merely consenting to therapy isn’t enough, you have to do a lot of hard work as well. The fact that the hard work of everything from overcoming neuroses and anxieties to battling substance abuse is the patient doing the work suggests something about the nature of therapeutic intervention as “treatment” rather than advice-giving.

You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.

by jm__87 8y ago

You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.

I mean, if someone is shot, you can still surgically intervene without them having to participate. It’s true in psych that you have to help yourself, but it’s also true that’s probsbly a valid critique of the art rather than science that is psych. Talk therapy has more in common with spiritual guidance or shamanism than medicine, except where the actual medicine enters the fray in the form of drugs and surgery. If you’re willing to help yourself, talking to someone is often helpful, but that’s been known for thousands of years. A real intervention doesn’t require someone to help themselves; an appendectomy doesn’t require patient participation and motivation.

jm__87 8y ago
I mean, if someone is shot, you can still surgically intervene without them having to participate. Okay, this is clearly not what we were talking about. Sorry I was not more specific in my statement to generalize to all scenarios, ever. Edit: I think it is also a pretty fair assumption that if someone is shot or their appendix is about to burst, they would want help. The key difference here is that someone who is shot is not capable of helping themselves - with regards to many things people go to therapy for, the only way to fix your problems is going to be taking some actions yourself.
- GW150914 8y ago
  Consent is one thing “my appendix is killing me, help!” while actually doing the work yourself is another. Obviously any intervention requires consent to really work, but once you’ve consented to the appendectomy your role ends. You don’t have to actively engage in your own surgery past the act of wanting it. By contrast merely consenting to therapy isn’t enough, you have to do a lot of hard work as well. The fact that the hard work of everything from overcoming neuroses and anxieties to battling substance abuse is the patient doing the work suggests something about the nature of therapeutic intervention as “treatment” rather than advice-giving.