A big issue I see is this idea of judging outcomes as positive/negative, instead of accepting people's processes. After starting therapy, I cut off communicati

A big issue I see is this idea of judging outcomes as positive/negative, instead of accepting people's processes. After starting therapy, I cut off communication from my parents at least twice. Is this a positive example of someone who's codependently avoiding their parents or someone learning to detach from their parents? Trick question: it's both. Another issue with measuring effectiveness is we aren't gathering information about the therapists' beliefs/mindsets. I dropped a therapist because she started adopting my own parents' financial insecurities, shouted "you're going to run out of money" at me a couple times during a session. Anxiety over money was a key issue for me, so I asked her multiple times not to repeat messages to me that might reinforce my thinking. She ended the session with a comment about running out of money, so I dropped her. I've since gotten over my money anxieties to the point that I've essentially taken a vow of service & poverty as I try to minimize my participation in capitalism. While I'm happy and love my new life free from worrying about money or how to meet my needs, I don't know if this would be considered a desirable therapeutic outcome when considering the rest of society. Of course, society's wellbeing is also really subjective and we are slow to evaluate our culture for long-term effects. I also started practicing Nonviolent Communication 2.5 years ago. For a while, I was kind of robotic in my communication style after, since I was structuring most sentences as "When (I|you) <observation without evaluation>, (I|you) feel <emotions without evaluation>, because (I|you) need <specific human need without specifying strategy for meeting the need>." Is this temporary rigidity considered negative? What about any person who sticks with the language they use throughout their life? We program ourselves & each other with our words and I view therapy sessions as guided debugging sessions where I work to figure out ways I've programmed myself or been programmed that are unsustainable. This perspective is therapeutically useful to me & the success of my therapy sessions has deepened, as a result. These days, therapy is more of a safe guard to keep me in check as I play with my mind and perceptions, though I'm still working on my anxiety with writing. I don't know how any of that can be accounted for in these studies and while I may be an outlier, I know that learning to pay attention to outliers is how innovations can come about.