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Female engineer here. What do you mean by "robbing her of her femininity"? And how would equal treatment do that? Damn straight I want to be treated as an equa
by cimmanom 8y ago
Female engineer here. What do you mean by "robbing her of her femininity"? And how would equal treatment do that?
Damn straight I want to be treated as an equal. A professional relationship on equal footing doesn't have to be a "cold" relationship. Why would it?
And yes, I'm highly tempted to vent here in large part because I really don't understand this question at all.
Can you please explain further what you're trying to get at?
- sensitiveqstn 8y agoThank you for your patience. 1) Many women dress nicely. Some for themselves, some to impress others as well, most to impress the opposite gender. I can't see myself complimenting my female colleagues on the outfit, while I would definitely complement non-work-related female acquaintances. 2) My colleague is a great engineer. Saying "You are a great engineer" is ok, saying "You are a proof that girls can kick ass in engineering" I feel is a no-no. In the first case I'm completely ignoring that she's a woman. And I understand that it is ok, that the "you are a woman" prism should be out of the optics. I think that many women want to be seen as women at their workplaces, just without any advances, condescension (mostly tech thing), harassment etc. Firstly a professional, secondly a woman. I hope this makes it clearer.. or am I just an unaware misogynist?
- cimmanom 8y agoThat you're asking rather than assuming is a good first step. I've been meaning to give this the more thorough response that it deserves, but this week has been crunch time. Just want to let you know that I do intend to respond when time allows.