You just rationalized being rejected from a website because you came from HN. The truth is that you don't know what "toxic" means by the author's own definition

You just rationalized being rejected from a website because you came from HN. The truth is that you don't know what "toxic" means by the author's own definition or what led him to think that way. It may or may have anything to do with "listening to other people". Perhaps this defense is toxic already. And just telling that some place is great for you does not mean that it's great for others.