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And if you repeatedly commit blunders on accident, that are repeatedly called out by a majority, this whole situation has just magnified the problem by a non-tr

And if you repeatedly commit blunders on accident, that are repeatedly called out by a majority, this whole situation has just magnified the problem by a non-trivial factor. Because you are literally telling a person 'don't do things on this list' ... Okay ... What can I do? 'oh, figure it out' Why does it not make sense that people like this have to be acutely intelligent super insanely fast? You've basically been conditioned to solve a problem that is np hard because every new person has different preferences and every old person eventually gets tired of you not adapting to them quickly enough. And honestly, the bottom line is this all may happen because of something insanely stupid - like having acne, freckles, a big nose, whatever. So you can never win with these people! And eventually you realize that and find real friends, and we all live happily ever after, just like everyone else is allowed to. The end.

s73v3r_ 8y ago
"And if you repeatedly commit blunders on accident" Once or twice is an accident. "Repeatedly" demonstrates an unwillingness to change.
- wolfgke 8y ago
  > Once or twice is an accident. "Repeatedly" demonstrates an unwillingness to change. This assumes that you make the same mistake multiple times. There are so many unwritten social rules (which actually hardly anybody can consciously "put into explicit rules") that there exists a giant "potential" for social blunders without making any mistake twice.
  - s-shellfish 8y ago
    Thank you. The difference between my differences and your differences are an intellectual construct. You can't make comparisons saying someone is doing identically the same problem you have with them unless you actually literally become them identically and can then make the comparison.
- s-shellfish 8y ago
  "Repeatedly" is from your perspective and demonstrates your need to control things without actually working those things out through proper communication. Why do you want people to change? Why is that your designation as your identity? What gives you that right? I don't have answers for you in your life because I don't know you. But throwing out general advice to people without actually having the compassion to allow them to understand just demonstrates that you have insecurities too, and are just as unwilling to work through the really really fucking hard stuff because you can't take the time to understand the way the people you direct understand things.

s73v3r_ 8y ago

"And if you repeatedly commit blunders on accident" Once or twice is an accident. "Repeatedly" demonstrates an unwillingness to change.

wolfgke 8y ago
> Once or twice is an accident. "Repeatedly" demonstrates an unwillingness to change. This assumes that you make the same mistake multiple times. There are so many unwritten social rules (which actually hardly anybody can consciously "put into explicit rules") that there exists a giant "potential" for social blunders without making any mistake twice.
- s-shellfish 8y ago
  Thank you. The difference between my differences and your differences are an intellectual construct. You can't make comparisons saying someone is doing identically the same problem you have with them unless you actually literally become them identically and can then make the comparison.
s-shellfish 8y ago
"Repeatedly" is from your perspective and demonstrates your need to control things without actually working those things out through proper communication. Why do you want people to change? Why is that your designation as your identity? What gives you that right? I don't have answers for you in your life because I don't know you. But throwing out general advice to people without actually having the compassion to allow them to understand just demonstrates that you have insecurities too, and are just as unwilling to work through the really really fucking hard stuff because you can't take the time to understand the way the people you direct understand things.