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> And tangent-ally related: > Today in being a female game dev: ‘Allow me — a person who does not work with you — explain to you how you do your job.’ > That

by Sacho 8y ago

> And tangent-ally related: > Today in being a female game dev: ‘Allow me — a person who does not work with you — explain to you how you do your job.’ > That is beautiful, and the essence of my growing rage at my fellow nerds in various fandoms. Perhaps you should temper your growing rage with the facts. Here is what Deroir actually said - https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014280605599748096 https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014280605599748096

lucio 8y ago
and then https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014564971416518656 https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014564971416518656
chc 8y ago
He was not himself rude, but that doesn't mean his comment wasn't part of an irritating pattern of comments from lots of different people. For a completely different example of the same phenomenon, every individual person who makes the "People Eating Tasty Animals" joke at vegans is only making a mild jab, but in aggregate it gets very tiresome for the vegan who hears it over and over and over.
- mrguyorama 8y ago
  So because other men sometimes doubt the intelligence of women in general, I am never allowed to question a woman?
  - chc 8y ago
    If you know more than her, go right ahead. If she is an experienced professional in a field and you've never done it a day in your life, then yeah, trying to teach her is kind of presumptuous. This isn't just a female thing — it's poor behavior no matter who you're dealing with — but women have to deal with it more often, so it can be more aggravating for them.
    - Bekwnn 8y ago
      The person replying to her creates videos of the game and is quite popular among the playerbase. He even makes videos focusing on the lore of the game. He's qualified to discuss it. And thinking that you're above the criticism of readers as a writer because those readers dont themselves write is arrogant, speaking as a professional developer who both understands how dumb the audience can be, but also gets irritated by other people in my field who belittle them.
      - chc 8y ago
        I don't know, I feel like arrogant is using somebody's personal Twitter account to criticize them and expecting them not to have any feelings on the matter. Wanting not to spend all your free time being criticized by the entire peanut gallery is...pretty normal, I think.
        jessaustin 8y ago
        If that's how one feels, Twitter is the wrong place to be. Seriously, blame the platform first, because in this sense it is really awful.
    - LyndsySimon 8y ago
      > women have to deal with it more often, so it can be more aggravating for them While that may very well be the case - and I believe it is - that does not justify holding people to a different standard of behavior based upon their gender.

by Sacho 8y ago

lucio 8y ago

and then https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014564971416518656 https://twitter.com/DeroirGaming/status/1014564971416518656

chc 8y ago

He was not himself rude, but that doesn't mean his comment wasn't part of an irritating pattern of comments from lots of different people. For a completely different example of the same phenomenon, every individual person who makes the "People Eating Tasty Animals" joke at vegans is only making a mild jab, but in aggregate it gets very tiresome for the vegan who hears it over and over and over.

mrguyorama 8y ago
So because other men sometimes doubt the intelligence of women in general, I am never allowed to question a woman?
- chc 8y ago
  If you know more than her, go right ahead. If she is an experienced professional in a field and you've never done it a day in your life, then yeah, trying to teach her is kind of presumptuous. This isn't just a female thing — it's poor behavior no matter who you're dealing with — but women have to deal with it more often, so it can be more aggravating for them.
  - Bekwnn 8y ago
    The person replying to her creates videos of the game and is quite popular among the playerbase. He even makes videos focusing on the lore of the game. He's qualified to discuss it. And thinking that you're above the criticism of readers as a writer because those readers dont themselves write is arrogant, speaking as a professional developer who both understands how dumb the audience can be, but also gets irritated by other people in my field who belittle them.
    - chc 8y ago
      I don't know, I feel like arrogant is using somebody's personal Twitter account to criticize them and expecting them not to have any feelings on the matter. Wanting not to spend all your free time being criticized by the entire peanut gallery is...pretty normal, I think.
      - jessaustin 8y ago
        If that's how one feels, Twitter is the wrong place to be. Seriously, blame the platform first, because in this sense it is really awful.
  - LyndsySimon 8y ago
    > women have to deal with it more often, so it can be more aggravating for them While that may very well be the case - and I believe it is - that does not justify holding people to a different standard of behavior based upon their gender.