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This is one reason why too much phone time can be detrimental to child development. Modern kids are losing out on verbal skills because they are able to "hide"

This is one reason why too much phone time can be detrimental to child development. Modern kids are losing out on verbal skills because they are able to "hide" in their phones and avoid talking to adults. It is sad when parents fail to say to their kids, "hey, an adult is speaking to you, pay attention and answer them."

rimliu 8y ago
What makes you think that without phone kids would do talking instead of gazzilion of other activities? Also I am sure having access to iPad helped my daughter to learn way more than I thought she could at that age (e. g. English names for colors; count in English and the alphabet song — before she even was three). Just to clarify — we do not speak English at home. I had no phone or computer. Most of my time was spent in books. (Not bad for the vocabulary, I guess).
- user5454 8y ago
  > having access to iPad helped my daughter to learn way more than I thought she could at that age (e. g. English names for colors; count in English and the alphabet song — before she even was three) While that may sound awesome, I'm not so sure it's better in the long term. Your daughter would've learned the English names of colors and the alphabet eventually anyway. OTOH using phones and pads changes our brains, making us worse and worse at keeping our focus. We become addicted to that something is always changing or moving until reading a book becomes hard. I'd rather start from the other side, reading a lot of books for the kids, letting them learn at a slower rate but with retained ability to focus.
  - dangerface 8y ago
    > OTOH using phones and pads changes our brains, making us worse and worse at keeping our focus. Thats not true: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-38896790 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-38896790
dangerface 8y ago
"hey, an adult is speaking to you, pay attention and answer them." This is a very one sided attitude and conversation, why would any one want to talk to some one with this attitude? As an adult I can call out this poor attitude, but a child cant, thats why they are hiding in their phone.
- orbitur 8y ago
  I'd only refine it to "your caretaker(s) are talking to you, pay attention and answer." A child also can't understand when their impulse to follow impulse is harmful. Someone should be interrupting with what you call a poor attitude.

rimliu 8y ago

What makes you think that without phone kids would do talking instead of gazzilion of other activities? Also I am sure having access to iPad helped my daughter to learn way more than I thought she could at that age (e. g. English names for colors; count in English and the alphabet song — before she even was three). Just to clarify — we do not speak English at home. I had no phone or computer. Most of my time was spent in books. (Not bad for the vocabulary, I guess).

user5454 8y ago
> having access to iPad helped my daughter to learn way more than I thought she could at that age (e. g. English names for colors; count in English and the alphabet song — before she even was three) While that may sound awesome, I'm not so sure it's better in the long term. Your daughter would've learned the English names of colors and the alphabet eventually anyway. OTOH using phones and pads changes our brains, making us worse and worse at keeping our focus. We become addicted to that something is always changing or moving until reading a book becomes hard. I'd rather start from the other side, reading a lot of books for the kids, letting them learn at a slower rate but with retained ability to focus.
- dangerface 8y ago
  > OTOH using phones and pads changes our brains, making us worse and worse at keeping our focus. Thats not true: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-38896790 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-38896790

dangerface 8y ago

"hey, an adult is speaking to you, pay attention and answer them." This is a very one sided attitude and conversation, why would any one want to talk to some one with this attitude? As an adult I can call out this poor attitude, but a child cant, thats why they are hiding in their phone.

orbitur 8y ago
I'd only refine it to "your caretaker(s) are talking to you, pay attention and answer." A child also can't understand when their impulse to follow impulse is harmful. Someone should be interrupting with what you call a poor attitude.