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I come from a considerably poorer background than you based on your other posts, poorer than most, with birth defects that have caused me constant problems and.

I come from a considerably poorer background than you based on your other posts, poorer than most, with birth defects that have caused me constant problems and... I could add a bunch of things to this list but it's quite accurate, I'm just past 30 now and by being poor, smart, open, hardworking and going where the energy/money is you end up ticking all of these boxes. You'll end up more closely identifying with first gen immigrants which puts you in a pretty good place out in SF. You'll get used a lot in your 20s, people will make a major buck off your skillsets, but if you keep growing them you'll skyrocket a few years after most everyone else plateaus, the joy of working and fear of poverty never leave, but they are rocket fuel later. You get used to deprivation, develop a non-fragile sense of self, and learn to let most things go too, you'll get used to sweating in secret and it'll give you a great pokerface, it's great training for doing the hard things once life gets easier financially in your 30s and temptation to coast lays most other people low.

yakshaving_jgt 8y ago
I feel relatively successful now at 28 as a programmer, speaker, founder etc after having had to eat with the homeless every day when I was 20, so this comment hits pretty close to home.
Viliam1234 8y ago
I haven't been in such situation, but my good friends was, and what he did fits what you wrote: He grew up in a city with 50% unemployment. After he realized he has no future there, he left. Just bought a ticket to a larger city, and then applied to companies there until he found one that took him. (His friends from the original city keep meeting in local pubs and dreaming about how one day they will somehow get lucky. They haven't.) At his first job they abused his inexperience, paid him about half the market price, and as he kept learning new things, they gave him more difficult work, without increasing his salary. But the work still paid bill for living in the city, he learned a lot of stuff, and then one day he left for another job that paid several times more.
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yakshaving_jgt 8y ago

I feel relatively successful now at 28 as a programmer, speaker, founder etc after having had to eat with the homeless every day when I was 20, so this comment hits pretty close to home.

Viliam1234 8y ago

I haven't been in such situation, but my good friends was, and what he did fits what you wrote: He grew up in a city with 50% unemployment. After he realized he has no future there, he left. Just bought a ticket to a larger city, and then applied to companies there until he found one that took him. (His friends from the original city keep meeting in local pubs and dreaming about how one day they will somehow get lucky. They haven't.) At his first job they abused his inexperience, paid him about half the market price, and as he kept learning new things, they gave him more difficult work, without increasing his salary. But the work still paid bill for living in the city, he learned a lot of stuff, and then one day he left for another job that paid several times more.

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