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I wish someone would write a useful version of this for the question “what should I do to make the most of my life when my family is poor or somehow less fortun
by ritchiea 8y ago
I wish someone would write a useful version of this for the question “what should I do to make the most of my life when my family is poor or somehow less fortunate?”
A lot of this would still apply but there’s a huge percentage of the population that has to deal with major difficulties in life before they can heed the kind of advice Patrick offers.
- tonyedgecombe 8y agothere’s a huge percentage of the population that has to deal with major difficulties in life Do you or is this just some lefty privileged angst?
- ritchiea 8y agoYea I did, what is it to you? Do you take joy in asking that question? Does it make you feel better to know my mom was a single parent without very much money? Do you feel like you productively added to the conversation?
- tonyedgecombe 8y agoI'm sorry if I offended you, that wasn't my intention.
- java_script 8y agoHahaha that was one of the most ridiculous (and succinct) 180's I've ever seen online.
- chrisfosterelli 8y agoIt's OK for people to realize they made a mistake and change accordingly.
- java_script 8y agoMy bad. Sorry if anyone thought my comment was rude.
- tonyedgecombe 8y agoI didn't think it was rude.
- tonyedgecombe 8y agoActually I think I apologised too soon, looking at @ritchiea's posts and web site I reckon I was right on the mark.
- ritchiea 8y agoTell me about my background It’s absolute bullshit that you assume you know so much about me from browsing my web presence I didn’t ask for an apology and what I said about my life is true. You seem to have some kind of complex about class where you feel you need to make a point but without actually expressing anything of significance. I am not at all trying to prove any kind of point about what your class background means or doesn’t mean. I made a very clear comment and you replied snarkily with assumptions about what my background might be. And I replied that you are wrong, which is true. What are you trying to get at? What is your point? It looks like you want to be an asshole unless I can somehow prove I am the poorest kid from the roughest situation still posting on hacker news. But all you’re posting is pithy bullshit.
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- ritchiea 8y agoWhat did you expect? That I had a website that says “I am very poor, please donate money to me?” Or maybe “I am a tough SOB from the hood that made it good at google and now i’m a crypto millionaire who boxes in my spare time to drown out the aggressive tendencies I acquired in my youth”? Who do you want me to be to fit your world view?
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- fellowniusmonk 8y agoI come from a considerably poorer background than you based on your other posts, poorer than most, with birth defects that have caused me constant problems and... I could add a bunch of things to this list but it's quite accurate, I'm just past 30 now and by being poor, smart, open, hardworking and going where the energy/money is you end up ticking all of these boxes. You'll end up more closely identifying with first gen immigrants which puts you in a pretty good place out in SF. You'll get used a lot in your 20s, people will make a major buck off your skillsets, but if you keep growing them you'll skyrocket a few years after most everyone else plateaus, the joy of working and fear of poverty never leave, but they are rocket fuel later. You get used to deprivation, develop a non-fragile sense of self, and learn to let most things go too, you'll get used to sweating in secret and it'll give you a great pokerface, it's great training for doing the hard things once life gets easier financially in your 30s and temptation to coast lays most other people low.
- yakshaving_jgt 8y agoI feel relatively successful now at 28 as a programmer, speaker, founder etc after having had to eat with the homeless every day when I was 20, so this comment hits pretty close to home.
- Viliam1234 8y agoI haven't been in such situation, but my good friends was, and what he did fits what you wrote: He grew up in a city with 50% unemployment. After he realized he has no future there, he left. Just bought a ticket to a larger city, and then applied to companies there until he found one that took him. (His friends from the original city keep meeting in local pubs and dreaming about how one day they will somehow get lucky. They haven't.) At his first job they abused his inexperience, paid him about half the market price, and as he kept learning new things, they gave him more difficult work, without increasing his salary. But the work still paid bill for living in the city, he learned a lot of stuff, and then one day he left for another job that paid several times more.
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