Besides the first part which I just don't agree with I agree with the other things and as I said it's not either or but finding a balance. The kids are looking

Besides the first part which I just don't agree with I agree with the other things and as I said it's not either or but finding a balance. The kids are looking to you to find out what maximises your attention so that's what you have to manage before anything else. Of course you are not just saying "oh get up, your are fine" to someone who is actually crying because they hurt themselves but there is plenty of room from that and then to someone who cries for every little thing. So again balance. Read the situation and react to that.