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But as the article points out, it's not actually a good way of building trust: "I told my husband that if he cheats on his wife only after a year, he will chea

But as the article points out, it's not actually a good way of building trust: "I told my husband that if he cheats on his wife only after a year, he will cheat us. He said no way, he’s a good guy, we can trust him!” She looked a little smug. “Now this man owes us a lot of money that he won’t pay.”" It's completely true...if you get the impression that someone has dubious morals, they will just as easily cheat you. I never trust anyone in business who even hints at breaking the law or cheating on anything.

motohagiography 8y ago
Arguably that particular situation was more a symptom of bringing a paramour to where spouses would be present, demonstrating disrespect for his clients relationships (and in turn his clients). That was the tell. People generally don't cheat their in-groups, and these vice collateral rituals establish in-group status. Showing disrespect to the values of a group is a good indicator your perceived cost of defection is low. Signalling you don't value your collateral is a good way to put off counterparties. The guy showing up with a mistress showed not that he was necessarily immoral, but rather, that he didn't value the esteem of his clients or vice collateral he had established.
- cpncrunch 8y ago
  In my own experience, people who have dubious morals are not good for business. >People generally don't cheat their in-groups Perhaps "less likely". My own experience is that people who try to bend the rules are less intelligent, and less likely to be successful. This seems to be backed up by research: http://uk.businessinsider.com/intelligence-and-cheating-2017-10 http://uk.businessinsider.com/intelligence-and-cheating-2017... Of course, this may not work in China, if things are still the same as described in the article.

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But as the article points out, it's not actually a good way of building trust: "I told my husband that if he cheats on his wife only after a year, he will chea

by cpncrunch 8y ago

motohagiography 8y ago
Arguably that particular situation was more a symptom of bringing a paramour to where spouses would be present, demonstrating disrespect for his clients relationships (and in turn his clients). That was the tell. People generally don't cheat their in-groups, and these vice collateral rituals establish in-group status. Showing disrespect to the values of a group is a good indicator your perceived cost of defection is low. Signalling you don't value your collateral is a good way to put off counterparties. The guy showing up with a mistress showed not that he was necessarily immoral, but rather, that he didn't value the esteem of his clients or vice collateral he had established.
- cpncrunch 8y ago
  In my own experience, people who have dubious morals are not good for business. >People generally don't cheat their in-groups Perhaps "less likely". My own experience is that people who try to bend the rules are less intelligent, and less likely to be successful. This seems to be backed up by research: http://uk.businessinsider.com/intelligence-and-cheating-2017-10 http://uk.businessinsider.com/intelligence-and-cheating-2017... Of course, this may not work in China, if things are still the same as described in the article.