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Why is it good that for several days his employee feels unable to talk to him about anything? Who does that benefit? Agreed, I am completely uncomfortable with
by frossie 16y ago
Why is it good that for several days his employee feels unable to talk to him about anything? Who does that benefit?
Agreed, I am completely uncomfortable with that. Once you indicate to someone that you do not trust them, why should they trust you?
The sad thing is that he is actually sounding reasonable to himself (and to others I am sure), because he is advocating against an even worse behaviour (like yelling at people).
Also, how to deal with children is not a good framework for how to deal with adults
Agreed, but it's not like his childrearing advice is that great either. Yeah, you can threaten to take the lego away from two fighting children, but it's better to teach them the skills to negotiate possession.
- msuster 16y agoI understand why you would be uncomfortable about it. But I firmly believe that giving an employee time to reflect on what went wrong & why is important. And they need distance to achieve this. If you're immediately chummy with them after a failure then this time of reflection is less likely. I know it doesn't sit well with everybody so I'm not asking you to adopt my style. But it is not manipulative and actually is quite effective.
- amirmc 16y ago> But I firmly believe that giving an employee time to reflect on what went wrong & why is important. And they need distance to achieve this. I agree with you on this but I see a distinction between being 'cold and distant' vs 'not chummy'. The latter seems appropriate but the former seems counter productive (at least it would be with me). My impression is that you mean the latter but I can see how the original post might be read as meaning the former.
- msuster 16y agoPerhaps my language didn't properly reflect my thoughts. I did mean the latter. thank you.