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if you don't want to invest your money... don't do it. be assertive. 2 pieces of advice on being assertive... 1) if he tries to criticize you for not investi

if you don't want to invest your money... don't do it. be assertive. 2 pieces of advice on being assertive... 1) if he tries to criticize you for not investing... agree with him. example: "you aren't committed to this company." Don't start criticizing him... just say something like "I guess that's one way to look at it." 2) you have to detach yourself from the outcome. you might not be friends, but as long as you don't criticize him... he won't have any real grounds. no one that is a real friend will be mad at you for doing what you want. you haven't made a commitment to fund the company.

temp271828 16y ago
Thanks for the advice. My problem is usually being especially assertive, but a simple,"I will be prioritizing other things above participation in the company," definitely sets the right tone.
- andrewtbham 16y ago
  that's exactly right... agree with criticism and reassert what you want... when i first started my own consulting company, i had read several books about assertiveness and that's the advice. agree with criticism and re-assert what you want. I was trying to collect a bill and the guy that controlled the money ripped into me saying i did a bad job, there had been bugs... I said "I agree, I think we all wish things had gone smoother, but I think the bill is fair and I expect to get paid." He cut me a check shortly afterwards. The guy was hoping for me to start defending my work and get into an argument. I really don't think I would have made it in business without reading that advice and following it. sometimes it's hard to swallow your pride, but when people are trying to manipulate you.. they play on that. agree with criticism/reassert your position.