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Makes sense. Hypersocial seems like a good thing to me. Am I the only person who likes how connected phones have made us? Seems like sentiments shared on her

Makes sense. Hypersocial seems like a good thing to me. Am I the only person who likes how connected phones have made us? Seems like sentiments shared on here are often focused on the negatives. I met the love of my life on social media. I do business with people because of social media. Being connected has let me speak with folks I never would have had the opportunity to speak with otherwise.

jstimpfle 8y ago
You might just have figured out how to use technology to your advantage. I have a friend who can't stay away from his phone. I hate meeting up with him and then having to share his attention with his other acquaintances that I don't know, and can't even see. We sometimes play ping-pong, and even that often gets interrupted by phone checks.
- 21 8y ago
  This just tells you that your are just not that important to him. Thought experiment: if he was playing ping-pong with a celebrity
  - jstimpfle 8y ago
    You are quick to judge our friendship! There is two sides to the behaviour I described, the other being the issues that are discussed here...
  - coldtea 8y ago
    >This just tells you that your are just not that important to him.* That's the problem though: it's not just that are people X and Y, and X is "by nature or nurture" not that important to Y. It's also that modern technology encourages X being indifferent to Y (and e.g. maximising its eyeball capture). Not everything is about conscious decisions -- or even subconscious but from someplace within us. There are tons of factors (like social norms, fashion, family, ads, etc) that influence us and shape us, and not all of them for the better. Mobile phones are one such factor. Evolutionary, the human is totally susceptible to all kinds of BS tricks and influences.
coldtea 8y ago
>Makes sense. Hypersocial seems like a good thing to me. Am I the only person who likes how connected phones have made us? No, there are some others too. Not me though. I dislike how connected they make us to all kinds of harmful imperatives (spam, advertisement, surveillance, bosses, entitled people, etc.) and how disconnected they enable and encourage most of us to be from actual friends -- not just "here for you" friends, but also casual have a good time friends, with whom 20 years ago you would go out with or visit, as opposed to exchanging comments online.

jstimpfle 8y ago

You might just have figured out how to use technology to your advantage. I have a friend who can't stay away from his phone. I hate meeting up with him and then having to share his attention with his other acquaintances that I don't know, and can't even see. We sometimes play ping-pong, and even that often gets interrupted by phone checks.

21 8y ago
This just tells you that your are just not that important to him. Thought experiment: if he was playing ping-pong with a celebrity
- jstimpfle 8y ago
  You are quick to judge our friendship! There is two sides to the behaviour I described, the other being the issues that are discussed here...
- coldtea 8y ago
  >This just tells you that your are just not that important to him.* That's the problem though: it's not just that are people X and Y, and X is "by nature or nurture" not that important to Y. It's also that modern technology encourages X being indifferent to Y (and e.g. maximising its eyeball capture). Not everything is about conscious decisions -- or even subconscious but from someplace within us. There are tons of factors (like social norms, fashion, family, ads, etc) that influence us and shape us, and not all of them for the better. Mobile phones are one such factor. Evolutionary, the human is totally susceptible to all kinds of BS tricks and influences.

coldtea 8y ago

>Makes sense. Hypersocial seems like a good thing to me. Am I the only person who likes how connected phones have made us? No, there are some others too. Not me though. I dislike how connected they make us to all kinds of harmful imperatives (spam, advertisement, surveillance, bosses, entitled people, etc.) and how disconnected they enable and encourage most of us to be from actual friends -- not just "here for you" friends, but also casual have a good time friends, with whom 20 years ago you would go out with or visit, as opposed to exchanging comments online.