As one half of a couple that’s been going strong for 12 years now I can attest to the fact that trying to “stand in her shoes” was a sure-fire way for me to mak

As one half of a couple that’s been going strong for 12 years now I can attest to the fact that trying to “stand in her shoes” was a sure-fire way for me to make a bad situation worse :p It took a lot of time and gradually developed over the course of our relationship but what we do now mostly resembles debating. Very very fierce debating depending on the subject! So my personal experience completely gels with the findings in this research. Aside from that it’s also pretty annoying whenever someone else says “I get how you feel because XYZ”, when you feel XYA. If the other is off only by a little bit, it frustrates more than it makes you feel heard.