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The linked article is already taken down, but from the perspective of a woman, I will add a few thoughts. I attended a rural university that also shared a town

The linked article is already taken down, but from the perspective of a woman, I will add a few thoughts. I attended a rural university that also shared a town with a state penitentiary. Periodically over my years there, the university would put notes in student mailboxes informing us "The state prison was releasing on parole convict X on [insert date]. X was tried and found guilty of 3 counts rape. X stalks women and was armed during each of the events for which he was convicted. Psychologist have stated that X has near 100% likelihood of reoffending. If you are female do not walk alone. At night, do not walk without campus security or in small groups." The times we got a note like this, some weeks or a few months would pass, X would reoffend, raping some woman who normally did not have the benefit of campus security escorts, and we would get another note in the mailbox telling us that the security recommendation was no longer in effect. The town police were hard men. Last year in college, a neighbor came to my door freaked out because somebody was peeping on her. Called the local police. Police officers came to our door told us that peeping toms and flashers had statistical likelihood of escalating their behavior to more and more extreme acts including rape. They already knew the guy based on the neighbor's description. Also said not to fuck around if we saw him again. Any indication of a fixation was a really bad sign. So should submitter be subject to legal scrutiny, monitoring, and restraint on behavior after that single event? Absolutely. Bad behavior for some, begets worse behavior later. Should submitter be subject to scrutiny, monitoring, and restraint decades after a single offense? Probably not. We have sexual predator laws for a damn good reason: some people are guaranteed to violently reoffend unless prevented from doing so. Use of those same laws to ensnare teenagers who sext, Romeo & Juliet lovers, and the legitimate one-time offenders, is outside the original law's intent. The issue for the last category of offender is having a legal path to redemption. This piece seems to be missing. Arguable that for a lot of ex-convicts, a path to redemption and unrestrained participation in society is missing.

anothergoogler 8y ago
https://github.com/sdegutis/sdegutis.com/blob/a038c810e43de9b3d77ebed2c590d61f72a040ac/docs/blog/2018-06-29-career-post-mortem-or-how-flashing-teenage-girls-can-ruin-your-life/index.html https://github.com/sdegutis/sdegutis.com/blob/a038c810e43de9... Next post: A Git rebase/force push tutorial.
- _sdegutis 8y ago
  Oh, I forgot my repo is public :)
b_f 8y ago
> So should submitter be subject to legal scrutiny, monitoring, and restraint on behavior after that single event? Having caught the post while it was still up, a second, identical incident happened four years after the initial occurrence.
- _sdegutis 8y ago
  Yep. I wasn't very cooperative with treatment after the first incident. I was very defensive. I felt that I needed to protect myself from the unfair world. That mindset prevented me from healing as a person and receiving proper treatment. It's interesting to look at both of my HN accounts. I can actually see my gradual mental deterioration and then gradual recovery.
  - rabboRubble 8y ago
    Okay, well if there were two incidents I think you were exactly the type of person that needed judicial restraint. A couple of additional thoughts... 1) I do wish for your career and employment success going forward - society is better if you and your wife are successful in life, and 2) there is something "hinky" about your writing style and the way you describe your sexual & criminal indiscretions and employment difficulties. If you went around flashing 30 year old women, your behavior was still wrong and the type of behavior that indicates possible escalation to even more criminal and violent behavior. Not sure from your post whether or not you realize the age of woman does not matter. I have to wonder if that sense of strangeness is also apparent in your face to face demeanor. The type of strangeness that, in conjunction with a negative criminal background check, would eliminate a candidate for me. I've been threatened with physical violence and followed from time to time. I do not want to associate with people that cause me to seriously consider concealed carry.
    - _sdegutis 8y ago
      > Not sure from your post whether or not you realize the age of woman does not matter. It does matter. It makes it worse that they were still in formative years. > I have to wonder if that sense of strangeness is also apparent in your face to face demeanor. I think what's coming off as "strangeness" in my writing to a lot of people here, is that it seems like I'm treating what I did very casually, like it was just something that happened. But it's just that I'm so panicked over how we literally don't have money for next month's bills, and not sure where that's going to come from, that I really can't spend any energy on anything else. The guilt of what I did has weighed me down a lot and slowed me down, and I can't afford that, so I have to shut out everything else around me and just focus on solving this one gigantic problem right in front of me, of how to avoid my family becoming homeless and starved this summer because of my past actions. That's all I can think of.
_sdegutis 8y ago
I took it down because I just applied for another job, probably the last one I'll try. And I linked to my portfolio/blog site, but didn't want that to be the way they found out. Either way, I realize it's probably better for me to either remove this HN post, or to put the blog post back up, to avoid having discussion with too little context. So I pushed it and it should be back up now.

anothergoogler 8y ago

https://github.com/sdegutis/sdegutis.com/blob/a038c810e43de9b3d77ebed2c590d61f72a040ac/docs/blog/2018-06-29-career-post-mortem-or-how-flashing-teenage-girls-can-ruin-your-life/index.html https://github.com/sdegutis/sdegutis.com/blob/a038c810e43de9... Next post: A Git rebase/force push tutorial.

_sdegutis 8y ago
Oh, I forgot my repo is public :)

b_f 8y ago

> So should submitter be subject to legal scrutiny, monitoring, and restraint on behavior after that single event? Having caught the post while it was still up, a second, identical incident happened four years after the initial occurrence.

_sdegutis 8y ago
Yep. I wasn't very cooperative with treatment after the first incident. I was very defensive. I felt that I needed to protect myself from the unfair world. That mindset prevented me from healing as a person and receiving proper treatment. It's interesting to look at both of my HN accounts. I can actually see my gradual mental deterioration and then gradual recovery.
- rabboRubble 8y ago
  Okay, well if there were two incidents I think you were exactly the type of person that needed judicial restraint. A couple of additional thoughts... 1) I do wish for your career and employment success going forward - society is better if you and your wife are successful in life, and 2) there is something "hinky" about your writing style and the way you describe your sexual & criminal indiscretions and employment difficulties. If you went around flashing 30 year old women, your behavior was still wrong and the type of behavior that indicates possible escalation to even more criminal and violent behavior. Not sure from your post whether or not you realize the age of woman does not matter. I have to wonder if that sense of strangeness is also apparent in your face to face demeanor. The type of strangeness that, in conjunction with a negative criminal background check, would eliminate a candidate for me. I've been threatened with physical violence and followed from time to time. I do not want to associate with people that cause me to seriously consider concealed carry.
  - _sdegutis 8y ago
    > Not sure from your post whether or not you realize the age of woman does not matter. It does matter. It makes it worse that they were still in formative years. > I have to wonder if that sense of strangeness is also apparent in your face to face demeanor. I think what's coming off as "strangeness" in my writing to a lot of people here, is that it seems like I'm treating what I did very casually, like it was just something that happened. But it's just that I'm so panicked over how we literally don't have money for next month's bills, and not sure where that's going to come from, that I really can't spend any energy on anything else. The guilt of what I did has weighed me down a lot and slowed me down, and I can't afford that, so I have to shut out everything else around me and just focus on solving this one gigantic problem right in front of me, of how to avoid my family becoming homeless and starved this summer because of my past actions. That's all I can think of.

_sdegutis 8y ago

I took it down because I just applied for another job, probably the last one I'll try. And I linked to my portfolio/blog site, but didn't want that to be the way they found out. Either way, I realize it's probably better for me to either remove this HN post, or to put the blog post back up, to avoid having discussion with too little context. So I pushed it and it should be back up now.