> Why mention gender at all? I don't know, but if that's the intended question then it'd make sense to ask that (which someone else already did, so I recommend

> Why mention gender at all? I don't know, but if that's the intended question then it'd make sense to ask that (which someone else already did, so I recommend upvoting if you're interested). The question whose point I don't get is the one I responded to. It seems absurd to ask "why did you do X but not Y?" when doing Y would've only left you more dissatisfied.