Selfish and unfair of them? Is that not just as selfish, if not more so wanting to save you some pain whilst they must keep theirs - for your or society's conve

Selfish and unfair of them? Is that not just as selfish, if not more so wanting to save you some pain whilst they must keep theirs - for your or society's convenience? Would you restrict loved ones from risky activities for the same reasoning? A friend's grandfather killed himself a week or two after his lifelong wife died. The family view seemed to be it was rather touching. I got no impression anyone felt it was unfair. My friend certainly didn't. After my dad died my mother lost interest in life. For the whole of the rest of her life she wasn't enjoying it, deeply missed my father, and was really just going through the motions. Not that she'd ever admit that though most saw it clearly. She wasn't likely to be remarrying in her 70s. She died of natural causes. Had she taken her life, I'd have been upset, just as I was when she died. I think all her friends and family would have understood, and I certainly wouldn't have thought less of her. It wouldn't have hurt more. Actually almost certainly less, as it was so clear she was hugely unhappy those last years, even though she "coped" very well. I sure as hell wouldn't have called it unfair or selfish. I'd have probably thought it fitting, touching or perhaps a relief for her. At the end of the day it is their life to do with as they choose, not mine. So yes, of course it can be OK, not exclusively for the elderly either.